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When does dirty talk go too far?  

izzie1 52M
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10/5/2014 9:03 am

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When does dirty talk go too far?

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NatalieWouldToo 49F
30 posts
10/7/2014 9:24 pm

Talking dirty can be a zesty enterprise, indeed. In general, I draw the line at being called or being told anything that feels objectifying, humiliating or insulting. . "Whore" is a deal-breaker for me; I have never heard or known that word to be used in a positive way. Same with "broad". I don't love "bitch", buuut...that could be negotiable. i.e. 'got-DAMN but you're a fuckin' SEXY bitch'..sort of thing. It all depends on tone and intent. Sex is supposed to be a positive experience, and it's important that actions AND language reflect that. "Slut"..I like. To me and my lover, it's a term of endearment. It's FUN to be slutty with my lover. It's fun for my lover to see me tart it up. "Slut" seems to be a good, all-encompassing word for that kinda thing. But, take it out of the bedroom, and sling it as an insult? Nope.


izzie1 52M
599 posts
10/5/2014 3:35 pm

    Quoting travellerabc123:
    It's not really my style. Sometimes I think it's because that if I really stopped and listened to myself saying some of those things in the heat of the moment, I would find myself laughing out loud or greatly disturbed. There are plenty of good things to say without getting too out there.

    And if I allowed myself to really contemplate it, I think I would believe that if someone wanted me to talk that dirty to them, it is because someone else treated them that way. So either I am perpetuating something, or I am copying someone else's style. Again, both not my style.

    That doesn't mean I can't bawdy talk. I just don't use some of the more colorful words.
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travellerabc123 54M
3989 posts
10/5/2014 3:16 pm

It's not really my style. Sometimes I think it's because that if I really stopped and listened to myself saying some of those things in the heat of the moment, I would find myself laughing out loud or greatly disturbed. There are plenty of good things to say without getting too out there.

And if I allowed myself to really contemplate it, I think I would believe that if someone wanted me to talk that dirty to them, it is because someone else treated them that way. So either I am perpetuating something, or I am copying someone else's style. Again, both not my style.

That doesn't mean I can't bawdy talk. I just don't use some of the more colorful words.

Embrace the suck


izzie1 52M
599 posts
10/5/2014 10:00 am

    Quoting  :

Yeah... I'm down with the dirty talk too... you just gotta know what's too much... like anything else.
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izzie1 52M
599 posts
10/5/2014 9:56 am

    Quoting babydoll2128:
    I have to agree with you, in the heat of the moment I don't want to be called by a different name. I don't think I will stop in the middle of it but I would most definitely bring it up later.

    I enjoy dirty talk it turns me on and at the moment, I'm not being a princess LOL. I like to be just as naughty and nasty with my partner.

    There is sometime that bothers me when I'm with my partner and I'm not sure how to bring it up. I'm bothered when after we have had our fun, he checks his email and messages or he will show me his favorite porn or porn star. I know we are just FWB's but it makes me feel that he just didn't get enough from me or I just didn't stimulate him enough to want to continue. Your thoughts on that?
You want the honest answer?
We're stupid!
You've probably just rocked us and even scientists have compared orgasms to having a mini seizure and we do stupid things after because we're a little out of our heads.
But... it could just be that he's kind of thick in the head and dense. He may view you as more of a friend he gets to fuck if you haven't put any parameters on the relationship. One thing I think you should remember is if you're just friends that fuck... well... that's what you get. I think he should be a little more considerate but if you've never said anything... he's not a mind reader. If I checked email after sex and you said "hey... I'm right here... please don't do that it makes me feel kind of invisible" and I knew the consequence of doing it would be less sexy time. I wouldn't do it.
Or... fire back... get up and leave. Don't say anything. Just gather your stuff and go. When he asks wtf? Tell him.
I think be honest but don't be a bait and switcher. You went in knowing it was a fwb deal... don't make it more without negotiating it. It all depends on how good the booty is... what are you willing to tolerate for what you're getting?
Damn... that got long winded... sorry

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izzie1 52M
599 posts
10/5/2014 9:39 am

    Quoting  :

Yeah... some of the comments on pics on here are pretty vile... I can't imagine the ladies thinking "oh thanks for that disgusting and inconsiderate comment".
So... yeah... I get what you're saying... thanks for the comment.

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izzie1 52M
599 posts
10/5/2014 9:36 am

    Quoting  :

Yeah... cum dumpster... is about as vile as it gets... I laugh uncomfortable anytime I see it... it's just wrong. ..
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