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Sex and Friendships
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Sex and Friendships Do they go together? Do they really? Can mutual sex destroy friendship? I think it can. That is, if there is true friendship in the first place. I'll be writing more here in a few days. |
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7/24/2005 11:20 am |
HI, I've had sex with my friends. Some friendships remained others failed. The ones that are still intact are due to our ability to seperate the two, not get emotionally attached, but just sex, two ppl emjoying nakedness.
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8/6/2005 9:29 am |
If the friendship is strong enough it can weather anything. I've had sex with alot of my friend and we still all remain friends. Denny
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It depends on the maturity of both male and female. It has worked for me just fine.
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10/3/2005 10:11 am |
I agree. It depends on maturity. The ability to be open and honest and keep things in perspective is key
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1 post 11/22/2005 4:34 pm |
yes you can be friands after sex but it takes the right person do do that , sometimes it work and some not ,,, would like to chat with you ?? look me up ok ,,thanks ..
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Some men are just so needy and can not seperate love from sex. Love is a way of bonding to each other and sex is part of it. It is very important to talk for awhile before sex. Some have to hear it a thousand times to finnaly get it and some never do. Steve
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and women Steve
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i do believe that it can happen sometimes .. it does depend on the maturity & understanding of the people involved .. not all will become & remain friends after .. oh well, their loss, i guess .. my friends understand that i have a life seperate from this site, which includes the issues i have to deal with on a daily basis .. things like family needs, work, living conditions, bills, etc. .. i'm human just like everyone else, facing the same daily trials as others do .. i wish more of my sexual contacts would please understand this & not pressure me or accuse me of losing interest .. that's a big turn off for me .. well, til next time .. have a great day!
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thanks to all for your posts, words of advice & comments on my blog.
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1/19/2006 5:23 pm |
since when does sex have anything to do with love or friendship? you don't need sex to love someone and visa versa.....
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2/14/2006 8:31 am |
If there is friendship before sex it can sometimes be a mistake to have sex, I think it depends on open communication about both the friendship as well as the sex. It does also depend on the maturity of those involved.
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3/8/2006 12:09 am |
I've had sex with women who were friends and remained so after the sex. I've had sex with women I didn't know and we became good friends even though the sex stopped. But then again, I've had sex with a friend and it ruined our friendship, so I guess it really depends on the people involved. Were you really good friends before? If so, I think the friendship will hold and if you thought you were really good friends but really weren't, then I think the relationship will end both as a friend and sexually.
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3/13/2006 3:34 pm |
Looks like everybody agrees on the same point of view. It depends on the maturaty of the people involved. The best sex I ever had was with friends. One-night-stands are for the birds.
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3/31/2006 8:32 am |
YES ^v^
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4/24/2006 11:00 pm |
What a can of worms you have opened up here, Friends and sex? sex and friends? I can only give my view, but I believe that friends can enjoy each other physically, sexually, and emotionally. I have had ralations with nearly every female friend (not Girl friends) that I have had. Now that number is great because I am a hard man to get near to, but all the relationships almost always end up involving sex. Some where one time things, a little expirementation, a quick afternoon of fun, and never repeated, and other where ongoing relationships that never blossomed into that final phase the LTR. For whatever reason it does happens, it happens and as long as both souls involved are satisfied it is a good thing.
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5/16/2006 9:10 am |
All I can comment about is my own experience. I have had several sexmates over the years who had been friends first. In two notable cases, they are still friends of mine. In one of those cases, the sex ended long ago; in the other it is ongoing. In the ongoing case, we simply separate the sexual relationship from the freinds relationaship---but we do not make sex and friendship exclusive from each other; we are BOTH. It works just fine. There were a few other people who sort of drifted away, but I do not think that had anything to do with sex. Quite a few people have drifted away, while new ones have been acquired; that's the way of things. So my conclusion is that friendship and sex are not mutually exclusive, or at least, they do not have to be as long as the people involved don't have mental constructs which make the two universes mutually exclusive.
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I've had sex with friends. Seems like after the sex, they either want it to be more than just friendship, and are embarrassed when I say it can't be more, even though we talked about it first. I was very sorry to lose the friendship of one such lady. We were friends for years, and after we had sex, and she knew it wasn't going to be more, she said if she couldn't have me fulltime, she couldn't be around me. She even quit her job and move on because of it. I felt really bad about it and I still miss her friendship.
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7/9/2006 12:48 pm |
I had a (now former, since I moved) co-worker good friend who one day approached me about the "friends with benefits" thing. I tried it out, it was good. But another friend of hers wanted more in their relationship, and got quite jealous and caused problems. So it's not just the two of you, it's also other friends and their reactions.
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7/31/2006 2:26 pm |
Sex and friendships can go together under the right circumstances. If you truly care in your heart about someone, then it can not be done. It will destroy the relationship. I can speak from experience on that one. My best frind offered herself up as my "birthday present" and I turned her down. She is my best friend and I want to keep it that way. She seemed to think we could do this and have no problem. I thought otherwise. She still gives me grief about it, but we are still best friends. Open and honest communication is a must. You have to both know what is expected and what you are both looking for. The minute one of you crosses the line, then the relationship has gone too far. Just my point of view. Love, Light, Laughter, Leave a Legacy, Greg
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From my experience with my mature friend I can say that you can be both friends and lovers. We have continued being friends after becoming lovers and we enjoyed both the same [whenever we can - there is a 4hour flight seperating us]. We are continuing our lives but we are still friends.
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i think it can work if both of you want it that way and understand it from the start
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1/29/2007 4:50 pm |
I agree,It can fuck some relationships up but sometimes it works some people cant help but le their feelings get tangled up. you meet some one cool, hot and you want to slay them in bed, turns out they're wacked out of their head, but great in bed, better off just fuck buddies, but sometimes it just works for both parties. depends how much you value the relationship. Best friend, probably npt a good idea. best girlfriend of a girlfriend/boyfriend what have you, WHY NOT?
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I think sex and friendships can go well together as long as there is a mutual respect for each other and the lines of communication are kept open. I have met some really great people since I entered this lifestyle about a year ago. In fact I wish I had taken the plunge years ago. The biggest obstacle that I've seen that gets in the way is jealousy. The big green eyed monster. I've witnessed it second hand destroy a friendship and first hand nearly destroy and cause irreparable damage to another friendship. If we are to succeed in this lifestyle, there is no room for jealousy. Some of my best friendships have begun from people I've met in the lifestyle and though I care very much for them, I understand that they are in the lifestyle for a reason as am I and rather than let the green eyed monster raise its ugly head, I support and respect their decisions and they support and respect mine. I believe that if we can't support, respect and communicate without the jealousy, then we shouldn't be in this lifestyle. It is not for everyone, but for those of us that have the ability to make it work, it is truly and awesome and wonderful experience. My advise for everyone is to just be totally honest first with yourself and then with your partner and friends with who you are and what you want and expect. BE A TRUE FRIEND.
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12/10/2007 2:41 am |
I had a friend with whom I shared everything, until the day when we turned the corner and we made love. It was really intense and very hot. We had a relationship cahcée for 2 years, it was passionelle .. and then her husband has discovered and things have deteriorated. Aujroud'hui is different and we no longer envy of one another ... ps : sorry for my bad english
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it really depends on the person, it could make your relationship strenuous or bring you closer
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