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is cheating right or wronge ???
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is cheating right or wronge ??? Pricia_1 made a post earlyer today that got me thinking about this subject.so i decided to make my own post on it......ooooh no here i go again lol.remember this is just my veiw.i hope everyone will take the time to read & comment on it .even if u disagree with me.its a free country & i would like to know how u all feel about the subject....in ur opinion is cheating right or wronge?? to me its wronge if u make a comitment to another just to cheat behind thier backs. either stick with it or get out.its not fair that one half of a relasionship thinks they r the only one & the other one is cheating.not to mention with all the std's floating around out there that could be given to the faithful spouse without them haveing a clue they r being exposed. i might have clouded personal feelings myself about this tho.u see i was the faithful wife married to the same man for over 25 yrs...a lifetime.the 1st 10-15 yrs were great .we had great sex ,shared alotta stuff,we were deeply in love,talked about everything....then he started haveing health problems that led to sexual problems.he was haveing problems keeping a erection.he refused to talk about it,it embarressed him.thats where the problem realy started i think in the lack of comunacation.he would not go to the dr.he blamed me lol then after time i blamed myself as well.i started thinking it was me that i wasnt sexy enough anymore.i now know it wasnt me but it took along time for me to relize this. 10 yrs went by....slowly we stopped shareing as much as before.we still had sex alot of it but it just wasnt the same.i kept trying to get him to go to the dr & to talk to me but he refused.about a yr before he past away from a massive heart attack (the cause of his sexual problems) i found out he had been haveing a affair with a childhood sweetheart for most of those 10 yrs that i stayed & tryed to work things out.it wasnt all his fault part was mine to.i stopped trying as much as he did.i started working alot that helped some.we grew further apart.i figured this was how all marriges got after that much time togeather.untill i found out about the other woman. she was married as well had been 3 different times to 3 different men.i knew her personality & she had her eyes opened wide about what they were doing.they both did.of course her hubby & i knew nothing...we trusted our spouses.how could i of been so blind for so many years??? wow was that a slap in my face.1st i was hurt beyond words,then i was majorly pissed off wanting to kill them both(needless to say i'm not violent person but i fully understand how crimes of passion happen now) then i relized i still loved him.i tryed harder than i had ever tired for one more yr to make it work.it got alot better!!! better than it had been in yrs.why??? he or maybe it was me he he he got rid of the other woman & we started talking again...COMUNACATION....that was the key to working things out.we did it togeather it was great.the sex was fantastic.we opened up to each other about everything good as well as bad. every marrige is hard work.its take both trying & working ur ass's off to make it work,to keep it fresh & exciteing.u will have down times hey thats life but u can work threw it togeather.its just like in a job,a friendship,everything u do in life ....if u only give it a half ass try thats all u will get back. look at all the time that was wasted 10 years.i miss him still & wish things had been different.i wish that if he wasnt gonna try that he would of left me yrs ago so i could of moved on with my life along time ago.that would of been the fair thing to do.he did relize at the end what he had in front of his eyes the whole time.a freaky hot loveing open minded passionette woman that loved sex & wanted more than anything to share it all with him.funny how the grass always looks greener on the other side when ur eyes & ears r closed. thats why i dont mess with married ones i've been on the other side & know how it feels.a woman can be just as guitly as men for cheating.to many inocent people(the spouse,the & sometimes the one that the married person is seeing) get's hurt mentaly & physicaly.i dont want some crazy spouse comeing to kill me in a fit of rage. most people that cheat dont tell the truth ...someones beeing lied to.not that i think its ok but the ones that admit that they r married i thank u for saying so & letting others decide if they wanta go there or not.to thoses who lie & hide the fact that they r married & cheating well i'm sorry but i think ur scum. if a couple decide's togeather to play with others i dont have a problem with that.they both enter into it with open eyes.plus they r COMUNACATING with each other.so more power to ya. oooops i guess i kinda got deep on this subject & hopefully i didnt piss off to many people.i also know theres lots of reasons why we all do what we do in life.i do hope each & every side will air thier veiws on this touchy subject.maybe we all can help each other understand why this happens.or maybe because of this post some will try alittle harder to comunacated & make thier lifes more fullfilling. good luck to all in whatever ur searching for, crystal |
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1/14/2007 4:40 pm |
I agree completely. I know that what I've done is wrong, and I will not try to justify it. I do have some special circumstances. My wife has a lot of mental and physical problems that make a normal life imposable. Communication on any sane level almost never happens. She has often urged me to find someone else, but I just can't. I remember what she was like before, and I know, in her heart, she is still the woman I married, and if I left her, it would hurt her badly, and I WILL NOT be the cause of any more pain. Again, I will not justify my behavior. Cheating is always wrong....R
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wow thank u all for posting on this subject.i hope that more will add thier 2 cents worth as well.i wasnt sure if i would rock some boats or make lots of enemys but looks like i've made a few more friend's instead.thank u all for takeing the time to read my novel about a piece of my life lol.i'm sure some of u have noticed so far i'm not shy & if i feel strongely about something i will speak my mind.imagine that a woman that speaks her mind he he he yep thats me  i'm also a goofball hell i'm awhole lotta stuff he he he .peace & luv to u all, crystal
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its kwel BICURINTX2006 its a part of my life that has made me who i am.i agree with what ur saying as well.personailty i belive we all need counseling in our lifes.we all have problems that we could use help with.hey isnt blogging a form of counseling ??? he he he crystal
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amen sistar
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I agree completely. I know that what I've done is wrong, and I will not try to justify it. I do have some special circumstances. My wife has a lot of mental and physical problems that make a normal life imposable. Communication on any sane level almost never happens. She has often urged me to find someone else, but I just can't. I remember what she was like before, and I know, in her heart, she is still the woman I married, and if I left her, it would hurt her badly, and I WILL NOT be the cause of any more pain. Again, I will not justify my behavior. Cheating is always wrong....R crystal
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thank u mizzkitka it was one of the hardest things i went threw in my life...but who ever said life was eazy.it is better to admit that u r married.than to act like ur not & lie about it.hurting others on thier path to thier own pleasure.i'm not sure i could share the one i loved by swinging either.but i do admire those that can be honest with each other chooseing to live the open lifestyle togeather without hurting each other. crystal
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yes u have learned alot about me havent u OldeGhoste.giggles just think it all started with a simple joke.i know alotta people do not understand the friendships some can make online....hell sometimes i dont either lol.i will say if it had not been for good online friends ,some that i still have almost 3 yrs later. i'm realy not sure how i would of made it threw all the pain,confussion & heartache i endured.its funny but some people in the REAL world during hard times tend to bail out when u need them the most.thanks for being a friend crystal
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Thank you for your candid sharing..... As a friend of mine likes to say, "life is a slippery slope..." I have never cheated with a married man, but you know there are a lot of things I thought I would never do, and then have kicked myself when I have done them, and gradually become desensitized till those things don't bother me. LOL...like being on this site...it definitely doesn't fit with my daytime demeanor/persona... Maybe this me was here all the time...but I've only got to know her(side of self) in recent times, and have yet to embrace her. wish i had a funny or profound way to end this post, but all humor escapes me at the moment. Blessings to you, wktut
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1/15/2007 11:12 am |
Now this is going to be short and sweet, after what I just went through, DEAD BANG WRONG. Mark
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1/16/2007 10:23 am |
If you cheat on a spouse....you will cheat on a friend, you will cheat at cards, you will cheat at life. You WILL cheat your self... Life is a journey, just ride~  ~[post 974853]~
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1/16/2007 5:58 pm |
Cheating is never right. Love, Light, Laughter, Leave a Legacy, Greg
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Thank you for your candid sharing..... As a friend of mine likes to say, "life is a slippery slope..." I have never cheated with a married man, but you know there are a lot of things I thought I would never do, and then have kicked myself when I have done them, and gradually become desensitized till those things don't bother me. LOL...like being on this site...it definitely doesn't fit with my daytime demeanor/persona... Maybe this me was here all the time...but I've only got to know her(side of self) in recent times, and have yet to embrace her. wish i had a funny or profound way to end this post, but all humor escapes me at the moment. Blessings to you, wktut
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Now this is going to be short and sweet, after what I just went through, DEAD BANG WRONG. Mark
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If you cheat on a spouse....you will cheat on a friend, you will cheat at cards, you will cheat at life. You WILL cheat your self...
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I agree with you Crystal, there is just a certain amount of stigma that can be attached with this site... (just the old latent prude hiding away in me.) But for the most part I have found it to be like you say. People are pretty candid about what they are looking for: e.g. short term/long term/wild fling/regular thing..... While there have been a couple of negative experiences here (but how many have I had from Match and Yahoo???) most have been positive. Meet and greets that did not go well ended with a 'thanks and good luck' and a couple of the Local Sexy Swingers guys I went out with were pure gentlemen.  Please forgive me if it sounded like I was putting a judgement spin on you or anyone else on the site. That was not my intention at all. I was merely reflecting on human nature. Have a delightful day WKTUT
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hey wetgirl1974 funny how as we r growing up we think we know everything but we dont realy have a clue.then as we get older we start to see things in a whole new way.people change but its sounds like u did know from a very early age what a great man he was.plus ur realy lucky to have someone that means so much to u.someone that u both can tell anything to without them getting jealous.thats a very special bond u 2 have.have fun & enjoy the love u share to the fullest. crystal
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I agree with you Crystal, there is just a certain amount of stigma that can be attached with this site... (just the old latent prude hiding away in me.) But for the most part I have found it to be like you say. People are pretty candid about what they are looking for: e.g. short term/long term/wild fling/regular thing..... While there have been a couple of negative experiences here (but how many have I had from Match and Yahoo???) most have been positive. Meet and greets that did not go well ended with a 'thanks and good luck' and a couple of the Local Sexy Swingers guys I went out with were pure gentlemen. Please forgive me if it sounded like I was putting a judgement spin on you or anyone else on the site. That was not my intention at all. I was merely reflecting on human nature. Have a delightful day WKTUT putting a judgement on anyone hun.i love it that i have got comments & that we all can talk as adults voiceing our opinions.even if some do differ from mine.u have a fab-tab-bu-lous day as well hun crystal
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well hello saint i see u found ur way into my blog lol.that couple was right but it works for more than the swingers lifestyle.communication is the key to all things in life it is a must in any kind of relasionship a love,a friend,family,jobs....everything we do.welcome to my crazy blog & dont forget to stop back by crystal
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6/4/2020 3:15 pm |
Cheating is a negative response to how someone feels. It's definitely immature too. Personal growth issue. All mentally healthy adults will NEVER cheat. I stand by my statement. If your partner agrees to an open relationship, no cheating can take place.
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