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why i have an im full of people i don  

rm_velvttouch 54F
2731 posts
12/27/2008 4:44 am

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10/26/2011 8:56 am
why i have an im full of people i don

I have been on this website and a couple others for a couple years which translates into forever...lol

Inevitably i get requests to chat and sometimes i do and i have had one chat friend for about 6 years now (but he is one out of hundreds...lol) but i have gotten much more selective about who i give an outside communication program to and here is why:

1. long distance chats reach a peak and then fade away. we don't mean for it to happen but it does. it just seems to be the nature of most relationships: if it doesn't go any where, it ends

2. some people collect im addresses. it seems to be a game to them. i can't tell you how many times i have given it out, heard from the person once or not at all and then poof gone...lol i love the ones that add me a year later or go long periods of time between talking to me and wonder why i can't remember who they are.

3. i have 400 people on my im and i only recognize a handful of them...lol but i won't delete them because of the repeat offenders. the people that get to know me and disappear or are just plain rude and find me on a different website and try to start up a conversation with me there then give me their im and presto i know i have at least talked to them before and it didn't go so well because i dont remember them but have their im...lol

convoluted i know but hey this process of getting to know people sucks...

so if you want to get to know me. read my blog. you can get a pretty good idea of who i am and what i am about. and i appreciate your comments there and i respond if i have something to say.

I also like email better sometimes because hey i can respond at my leisure and people without and pets just don't understand what it is like...lol i once had a conversation with a friend of mine that went on all day (he imd an hour later i saw it and answered, he saw my answer and said some thing back and so on...lol). i hate getting are you still there, you are busy or you don't want to talk to me when really i am just distracted. yes that is right there is something more important going on in my house then you!

and yes i am getting to a point where if i want to talk to you i would rather do it in person and am just not on this thing as much.. and don't want to be...

nil_a_wafer 76M
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12/27/2008 5:31 am

 400? That is a bunch for sure.

I was going to attempt to enjoy the IM around here.

With two odd women in one week's time, I just erased the program and stopped the IM thing all together.

You must have enjoyed better luck than I did?
I'm a Real sucker for nipples
Originator of the Cock Salad


rm_wildj0yce01 38F
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12/27/2008 6:17 am

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rm_velvttouch 54F
762 posts
12/27/2008 11:20 am

 i don't im on here. i prefer to use the program that one of my emails is on.


rm_Sat1sfacti0n 57M
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12/27/2008 4:04 pm

 I can understand the long list, and not really talking to most of them too. I might have 75 to 100 on mine, and I only chat with maybe 7 or 8 of them. I am not into the BS or the game playing, but do get into the real conversations with real people. I have meet a few of them, and most have never seen before. When it comes right down to it, I happen to make some good friends. You might even call it networking sometimes too. Sometimes all of us could use someone to talk to or listen to.

Just my .02 cents worth.


rm_velvttouch 54F
762 posts
12/28/2008 4:31 am
    Quoting rm_Sat1sfacti0n:
    I can understand the long list, and not really talking to most of them too. I might have 75 to 100 on mine, and I only chat with maybe 7 or 8 of them. I am not into the BS or the game playing, but do get into the real conversations with real people. I have meet a few of them, and most have never seen before. When it comes right down to it, I happen to make some good friends. You might even call it networking sometimes too. Sometimes all of us could use someone to talk to or listen to.

    Just my .02 cents worth.
i do network. i have a very social job where i deal with the public constantly. I just have certain preference like everyone else on the planet...lol


MajorHands 64M
60 posts
1/15/2009 2:04 pm

 I think that anyone who has spent enough time with one IM or another might experience something similar...my reason for keeping long inactive members of my friends list is more nostalgic. Looking back at some of them has the same feel as a scrapbook - can take me back to an earlier time...can be quite nice...and, optimist that I am, I don't rule out re-connecting with some of them down the road. It's also nice to check in with folks I've been friends/acquaintences/play pals with from time to time.


ccmale1970 54M
10 posts
11/12/2009 3:52 pm

 I agree that an IM friend only goes for a while and then if nothing comes of the relationship, then it ends. However, I have really enjoyed a number of the relationships that I have had on Yahoo. I remember almost all of them.


ggswd 66M/63F

10/26/2011 5:34 am

 Hi. I know what you mean. i prefer face to face also. hope someday you could give me the time of day to get to know you. Have a nice day


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