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Greatest Turn On?  

sman2k.01 51M
393 posts
10/18/2015 7:35 pm

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Greatest Turn On?

The consistently intelligent and engaging NaughtyInSO recently posited the question What is the Greatest Turn On on her blog. My answer was long enough I decided to share it here, on the off chance someone might also have a long and complicated or simple and easy to define explanation of what attracts them.

This is too complicated a subject for me to break it down to one single thing, or even pick one leading or most important thing.

Attraction has a component of physical, intellectual and emotional pulls and usually if one crops up the others follow.

A pretty woman seems more interesting, and an interesting woman seems prettier. Starting to really care about a woman makes her intensely beautiful and fascinating, of course.

Even within those categories there are different types of interest. For some reason I've noticed very intelligent women are often strongly attracted to me, and I'm not sure why. This interests me in return, but a woman doesn't need to have a Phd to hold my interest as long as she has something interesting to say.

Physical attraction is strange for me. I always hear about someone being a breast man, or an ass man, etc.. I think that you, NaughtyInSO, would find me quite the breast man, at least after seeing your Pink HNW post.

It's just complicated for me. I tend to like women, and appreciate them a lot more often than not, and have very broad taste. I love talking to really smart women (there's a reason I find certain blogs in here addictive).

I enjoy talking to smart men too, but smart women have a very different perspective and this is something I seek out. I've always had a high sex drive and I'm as visual as any men so I enjoy looking at women quite a bit, and I enjoy their company and their physical company when it's made available to me. And the older I get the more I find any good personality fit trumps whatever number I come up with on a scale from 1-10 of general attractiveness or grading her out on a Mensa test.

In the end all I can say is I like women, and I appreciate their finer qualities however I find them, the way a real wine enthusiast appreciates the fruitiness of one wine and the earthiness of another. And in the end I think of myself as the sort of person who is most interested in seeing them as they really are (which often takes quite a bit of listening and learning) and gaining whatever I can from the experience.

sman2k.01 51M
3151 posts
11/3/2015 7:16 pm
    Quoting  :
You know I've dated women from this site but the reason I keep coming back is for the bloggers, they tend to be a lot more reliably interesting in my experience.


sman2k.01 51M
3151 posts
11/3/2015 7:14 pm
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I can see this, after all you are a smart lady who can contribute very well to conversation. If you lived a bit closer I'd try to get you to put me on your coffee schedule for the conversation part if nothing else.

I can't help but wonder if you are limiting yourself here. Smart and likes smart. Good conversationalist and likes good conversationalists. Have you considered branching out, maybe to a not so bright guy who doesn't talk much?


sman2k.01 51M
3151 posts
10/18/2015 10:07 pm
    Quoting LiveLifeDoU:
    Greatest turn on for me...a combination of many things...when he wants to hold my hand in public, makes my heart skip a beat. When he looks at me when I talk and then asks follow-up questions that shows me he was actually listening, thrills me. When we have a disagreement and he's willing to stay up all night and talk it out (no yelling, screaming, etc) because he sincerely cares about us being together, my heart swells.
    Of course, this is after the initial meeting and agreement to meet again. I don't consider a bit of a connection at the first couple of dates to be turn ons, just a bit of interest, to see where it goes.
    And, sexual turn ons is a whole nother thing
You raise a good point, a lot of people think of a turn on as an instantaneous magic spark type thing, but they can build over time too and those are usually the ones that last longer as well.


LiveLifeDoU 69F  
2199 posts
10/18/2015 9:20 pm

 Greatest turn on for me...a combination of many things...when he wants to hold my hand in public, makes my heart skip a beat. When he looks at me when I talk and then asks follow-up questions that shows me he was actually listening, thrills me. When we have a disagreement and he's willing to stay up all night and talk it out (no yelling, screaming, etc) because he sincerely cares about us being together, my heart swells.
Of course, this is after the initial meeting and agreement to meet again. I don't consider a bit of a connection at the first couple of dates to be turn ons, just a bit of interest, to see where it goes.
And, sexual turn ons is a whole nother thing


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