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Dirty Talk: The Art of Talking Dirty In Bed
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Dirty Talk: The Art of Talking Dirty In Bed Want to make your sex life even hotter? Spice things up by talking dirty to him! Whether you're naughty or nice, talking dirty is one of the best tricks to heating things up in the bedroom. Check out this guide to dirty talking and learn how to speak the language of lust with sexy confidence. What can dirty talk do for you? Talking dirty is part of fantasy sex play, and like other forms of sex play, engaging in some titillating talk in bed can turn you on, turn your partner on, and culminate in some much steamier sex. But that's not all. "Dirty talk has a very important bonus: It's a terrific way for you to ask for ‒ and get ‒ exactly what you want in bed," says Lynne Stanton, author of Dirty Talk: Speak the Language of Lust. Plus, you'll get the chance to discover brand new turn-ons for both you and your partner. "Once you start talking to each other, you might unearth hot spots you didn’t even know you had," Stanton adds. So whether it's verbal encouragement ("You're making me so hot" and "Yes, that feels so good!"), erotically charged instructions ("I love it when you stroke me this way") or role-playing dialogue ("Want a little fun, stranger?"), you stand to foster a stronger sexual connection with your partner and you'll also feel more sexually confident about yourself. Getting started If you'd like to introduce dirty talk into your bedroom sessions, the first step is to broach the idea in casual conversation. Ask your partner questions like: "Are you the kind of guy who likes to talk dirty during sex?" or "Have you tried talking dirty in bed before?" You'll get an idea of how he feels about dirty talk, and if he thinks it's sexy (trust us, most men will find it extremely sexy), then it's your perfect opportunity to give it a go. Practice makes passionate The best way to ease into dirty talking with a partner is to try it out on yourself first. This may sound silly, but you won't know what to say until you know what words turn you on. Start thinking about naughty words and more explicit sexual phrases that describe how you would like to be touched during lovemaking and practice saying them when you're by yourself ‒ when you’re in front of the mirror, soaking in the tub, or even when you're masturbating. The idea is to get used to hearing yourself say them so you can take ownership of them. "It may be really weird at first. But the more you say them now, the less you'll stumble over them later," says Stanton. Here are some simple phrases you can try: I get so wet thinking about... Do you want to touch me there? I love it when you... Do you want to be inside me? I'm feeling naughty... Practice these phrases a few times ‒ even something simple like "faster" and "harder" and "oh, yes!" can help you get used to the sound of your own voice in an erotic context. Expanding your vocabulary A good way to build up your repertoire of naughty words is to check out mainstream movies with steamy scenes or erotic literature. Erotica can mean anything from sexy novels to magazine reads or even online erotic essays ‒ in fact anything that turns you on counts. Try reading them, first to yourself, then eventually to your partner. You'll get to practice using your sexy voice and also see how he responds. Erotic reads to try: Sweet Life: Erotic Fantasies for Couples by Violet Blue Story of O by Pauline Reage Delta of Venus by Anais Nin Tropic of Cancer by Henry Miller Get sexy ideas from your (and his) fantasies Part of being a good dirty talker is being creative, so start thinking of ways to connect to your sexual fantasies. "Use your imagination. Think of a phrase a former lover might have said to you. Imagine what one of your fantasy partners would say if he came to life," suggests Stanton. And if you know what kind of fantasy talk excites your partner, even better ‒ use that knowledge when you start talking dirty and get him incredibly turned on. For instance, if the talk of spanking gets you secretly revved up or you know your partner's turned on by the idea of doing it in a public place, say words that fit in with these scenarios, such as "I've been bad" or "But someone might see us!"      |
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