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Blogs > rm_JP2021 > My Big Soap Box

Pleasure Vs Pain (or Punishment)  

rm_JP2021 61M
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12/22/2008 3:32 pm
Pleasure Vs Pain (or Punishment)

Well, I know it has been a while since I have given an "opinion" and I think I have a subject.

So, with that being said, *Bang Bang* ( I have always wanted to use a gabble, though I see it more like a hammer - LOL ) this court is now in session, the not-so honorable JP presiding.

Pleasure - IMO this is what we are all about and for me the pleasure of heightening the senses of a woman is what makes sex enjoyable. The heightening of just one sense will usually amplify the others, and since the skin of a person is considered the largest organ of the body, it is most readily available area to use. I find that teasing a person's sense of touch by barely running a finger over thier skin, or by grazing my teeth over a nipple (not clamping down on it causing pain), or by using my lips, and tongue, to apply a different type of feel to a lady's skin, are the methods that I would prefer to use. Now, this is not to say pain is not a viable method, but I do not find much use for it.

Though the mind is the most powerful aphrodisiac ( Yes, I have heard of women that can have an orgasm without either - being touched by another person, or touching themselves. ), it usually needs to have some physical assistance, usually touching, but in some cases visual.

Pain - IMO, and this is purely mine, pain is strictly a punishment for somekind of perceived wrong doing. Even the self inflicted kind does not lend itself easily to pleasure. I equate pain with punishment. I think if I did not cry when I got spanked by my parents when I was little, would have inflammed them even more, and would have told them (at least mentally) that I did not get thier point of what they believed I was doing wrong, and would even make my beating even worse*. So, I do not see how pain can be made pleasurable. For me, I have had girlfriends that have liked to bite, and more often than not, the bite would knock me limp ( LOL ).

Anyways, that is it for me. I would like to hear what all of you think.

* - OH, for those of you that absolutely hate the beating of a , I call it discipline - the judiscious use of pain to emphasize the point of what is wrong. My own personal case in point is that I have 2 nephews (though I love them to death) need somekind of discipline (and it is not taking away thier toys, or sitting them in the corner) at times, and verbally telling they are wrong just does not do it. Somehow they act like the adults in this world were created just for them to ignore since they were born. And, yes, both my nephews are very intelligent. I am glad they are not my problem, though there are times I can feel the agony my brother goes through, but I know I would have been disciplining these fellows much more differently than how my brother has done.

I know my parents used their judgement very well when it came to the use of discipline. My 3 brothers, sister, and I all turned out fine. Our family is not dysfunctional like most families you hear about. We all talk with one another and respect each other enough to let us have our own opinions about things (even the discipline of our nephews).

beverdripping 60F

12/23/2008 9:58 am

 but also pain can be a very subjective thing . FOrwhat one percieves as pain another does not . Take the case of two different patients let's say female both . They both hae c-sections one patient requires the use of narcotic pain relieve ; while the other patient requires to be moving around to ease her discomfort . Does this mean that the first patient is over reacting to the pain . Or that the second patient has dulled senses . Is just that we all react differently to levels of pain .

Now as far as discipline ; I will openly admit to having swatted my sweet cheeks twice . Both times were because her actions would cause self harm , and endanger her . Beyond that no simply a time out and a stearn talking to works . I have found it that each child responds to punishment (discipline) differently . When I was raising my niece and nephew ; to not let him run and convort outside was a torture to him ; and the opposite for his sister I used to make her go out for 1 hour as her form of discipline . she hated the outdoors .
Refusing to flirt .....but will tease


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