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Blogs > travellerabc123 > I'm back from outer space

Can someone not want to be with you because they think you are too good?  

travellerabc123 54M
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915 posts
10/28/2017 11:25 am
Can someone not want to be with you because they think you are too good?

A lot has been happening around me lately. This is a question I've been playing with in my mind. If someone doesn't want to be with you, and when asked they tell you because you deserve someone better, is that real? Does that really exist? Or is it just a convenient/safe way of telling someone you just don't want to be with them (presumably for some other reason)?
Embrace the suck
superbjversion2 69F  
24388 posts
10/28/2017 12:55 pm

 I've always thought it was just an excuse; an attempt to make things less painful for the rejectee and ease a bit of guilt for the rejector.
Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation bangs on the door forever!


GreenEyedLady_60 64F
1925 posts
10/28/2017 1:14 pm

 I tend to agree with superbjversion....it lets someone off the hook, with hopefully a bit less pain for the one being dumped.

Honestly if someone told me that though...I'd have to call them out on the BS.

I'd say back to them "how about you let me determine what's best for me"...and see what they have to say then.....lol
Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


classicalrebel4 68M
1755 posts
10/28/2017 1:58 pm

 They could really mean what they say. There are women on here for whom I couldn't meet their expectations even when I was a younger.
Please don't let me be misunderstood.


lyavu 50F
1538 posts
10/29/2017 5:06 am

 Yes .. i have had that happen to me when I used to date . Guys said am too sexy for them and insecurity always was the reason


buxombbw4u 56F
16144 posts
10/29/2017 1:56 pm

 I've heard that line.

While I would prefer to think it is actually meant, I think it is a tactful way to get out of/avoid a relationship. And yes, I've called them out on that. You probably aren't surprised by that.

Then again, there is that saying, "when someone tells you who they are, believe them." Based on my experiences, I need to remember that.
2022... it HAS be better, right?!


honeygreeneyes 51F
42 posts
1/18/2018 4:09 pm

 I've heard this too from someone I was dating briefly. He said the women he was used to dating were trashy and he didn't have to work hard to try to impress them. He said I was in a different "class" than his. He dumped me for some skank. It worked out for the best anyway, he didn't like giving oral. ug. lol


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