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Supply and Demand  

MostlyTallGent 56M  
34 posts
3/22/2011 10:06 pm
Supply and Demand

Every once in a while I will get an e-mail from someone who compliments me on my profile and then mentions something about how much e-mail I must get. I am of course thankful for the compliments, but it also reminds me of just how different the experience on this site is for men and women.

The truth is that I don't get a lot of e-mails and on the odd day that I decide to sit down and write introductory e-mails to profiles I am interested in I might hear back from 1 in 15.

To me it is more about supply and demand than what I do or don't have to offer. In Pennsylvania there are 426,844 men seeking women, compared to 34,635 women seeking men. By time all the fake profiles are weeded out and inactive profiles are weeded out that ratio works out to be about150-200 men for every 1 woman on the site.

With the ratio being that skewed there is just no way that men even exceptional ones are going to receive the same kind of volume of e-mail that women get.

bitchinhighheels 59F

3/23/2011 2:33 am

 Truth be told getting emails is not always a great thing... when you have a profile like mine listing a specific preference many small-minded people feel the need to speak their mind concerning said preferences. Also, where I live the population of men within my "demographics" as someone once called it, is very low, so I also get many emails trying to convince me to come back to the "other" side... The quantity, at most times, lacks the quality that we are seeking. S.


MostlyTallGent 56M  
5 posts
3/23/2011 4:08 pm
    Quoting bitchinhighheels:
    Truth be told getting emails is not always a great thing... when you have a profile like mine listing a specific preference many small-minded people feel the need to speak their mind concerning said preferences. Also, where I live the population of men within my "demographics" as someone once called it, is very low, so I also get many emails trying to convince me to come back to the "other" side... The quantity, at most times, lacks the quality that we are seeking. S.
I agree, quantity does not translate into quality. I should have made it clear that I was not lamenting the fact that my inbox is not bursting at the seams on a daily basis. My motivations for the post were to merely point out the difference an experience this is for the genders and how the numbers dictated why.

Personally I don't get why women post pictures on their profiles given the volume of extra mail that it generates from people they have no interest in hearing from. If I were a woman on this site, my strategy would be to have a profile with a moderate amount describing who I was and what I am looking for with no picture and be the one to initiate contact with the men I was interested in.


bitchinhighheels 59F

3/23/2011 6:57 pm

 Well I have a feeling you are more intelligent than most the men here. The reason I don't initiate contact (usually) is that if they haven't made contact with me, then I figure they are not interested. I will leave a photo comment or status comment to get their attention but if they don't take it further, then that's where it ends.


pher0m0nes 60F
101 posts
4/17/2011 8:10 am
    Quoting bitchinhighheels:
    Well I have a feeling you are more intelligent than most the men here. The reason I don't initiate contact (usually) is that if they haven't made contact with me, then I figure they are not interested. I will leave a photo comment or status comment to get their attention but if they don't take it further, then that's where it ends.
I feel exactly the same way. I am old fashioned, think men should be the pursuers. My biggest 'move' is a smile..(Am very assertive and secure in all other parts of my life BUT feel quite strongly about this)


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