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did we make a huge mistake?
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did we make a huge mistake? K guys, i have written about this guy before. Now it's just more intense. i need some advice! lol Alright, so i have this best friend L. We have known each other for almost a year, but it really feels like we have known each other for years and years! We have become really close over the last year and are the best of friends. Me and him have this deep bond, this connection with each other that i can not explain. He knows what i am thinking all the time, he knows how i feel by looking at me, he can read my mind, we finish each others sentences, i know what hes thinking too. I understand him and he understands me. Ok, so here's the thing. Since day one, L and I have always liked each other more than friends, but we decided not to date each other since he fears losing me as his best friend. Basically, he waited too long to ask me out. We came to that conclusion the other day. But anyway, He's got this fear of getting screwed over and getting hurt like his exes have done to him. He doesn’t want a girlfriend right now, which is totally fine because he's only 21 (im 22) And hes gotta play the field and decide what he really wants! Ok, so over time, I think feelings have slowly gotten stronger. He has always flirted with me and over time it got more intense. It started with little innocent flirting and until about a week ago it was like we are boyfriend girlfriend almost. We act just like it. There was so much sexual tension between us you could cut it with a knife. But, thing is we never kissed! In a whole year He had never even kissed me until recently. Ill get into that in a min though. We had a really long talk with each other last Thursday. (jan 27th) about "us" There is no “us” but you know what i mean. In a nutshell he told me that he is so attracted to me, and that i was beautiful and i was just his type and that he thinks about dating me all the time. He said he's had feelings for me since we met back in April 2010. I have as well. He knows that. His main thing is losing me. He says friendships last longer than relationships most of the time. I know him very well and i know he's telling me the truth. I think it stems back from his parents divorce when he was little, he's still ****** up emotionally from it. So that Thursday night, he finally kissed me. Afterward, he told me how he's been wanting to do that for a year and how good it felt to finally do it. It did! It felt great! So, also in our little talk we discussed sex. Basically, he propositioned me for sex. And we talked about it for a long time. We talked about the positives and negatives, how it might affect us etc. He's also afraid that I am going to think he's using me for sex. He's very worried about that. I know he wouldn't do that. If he was going to, he would have tried long ago and would have stopped talking to me when I didn’t give it up. He's never even attempted to get in my pants previously. So, yes, the sex is great, we have excellent sexual chemistry and we like the same things. So, We have been having sex every day for the past week. And now things have become even more intense! I would say that we ARE boyfriend and girlfriend just without the title. To us, we are still best friends. That's our title. Things seem like they changed a lot, when we hang out, he'll greet me with a hug and a kiss, he tells me how he missed me since the day before, we are up each others asses all the time, he holds my hand, He'll lean over and give me a kiss on the forehead or on the cheek and tell me im beautiful, he'll rub my back, we text and talk on the phone more now, we make out A LOT, we cuddle, hold hands He even called me “baby” yesterday which he's never done before. He tells me he loves me. But after he says it each time he says “not like that though” But then the other day he said “i don’t love you like that but I think I might somewhat” something like that. Now he's saying “oh...well, we COULD date and see what happens” and “id be dating you now if I wanted a girlfriend” and stuff like that, like he's real close to making a commitment. Im not counting on it though, not at all. The funny thing is his mom, my mom, our friends, his friends and even 2 of his exes keep asking if we are dating. Like EVERYONE knows it should be that way, it's just him being scared to get hurt. So my question is....did we make a huge mistake having sex even though we are not in a relationship? I mean, he told me if he feels we are getting too attached to each other, he's going to cut the sex off. I dont know, everyone keeps telling me someone's going to get hurt and I know it's going to happen eventually. I need some guidance or something I dont want to cut it off because I enjoy him. But I dont want either one of us getting hurt. |
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I have to agree with OAE here. Don't assume anything here - just because it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck. A guy will think it's a goose!! He may still have a totally different definition for your relationship. Is it too late to get on the naughty list???
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My two cents: I'm not you, but if I had to choose between a very close friendship and a sexual relationship, I'd take the friendship 10 times out of 10. I'm sorry if this sounds too pessimistic, but let's face it - all you have to do is walk into any bar and you'll see plenty of potential sex partners. But a "best friend" is a relationship that comes along very, very rarely. Maybe the two of you will be able to pull it off successfully, but keep in mind that most of the time, when platonic friends start a sexual relationship, it ends badly.
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