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Why aff chat doesn't do it for me...  

schothot69 54F  
490 posts
10/13/2014 1:15 pm
Why aff chat doesn't do it for me...


So there's this thing Local Sexy Swingers does when you log in via a mobile device where it automatically puts you in the IM app. When I'm on my pc I pretty much NEVER go into IM unless there is someone on that I already know in there and they email me to say get in and let's chat because they see I'm online. Other than that, I just don't use it. Call me crazy, but I prefer email. A well though out message with some articulate content is one of the better ways I will get to know you and decide if I want to know more.

So given all that, the auto-login to the mobile IM feature is rather annoying from my perspective. It makes guys think I'm on there because I want to chat when I really don't. If there was a way to log off chat in the mobile app I would do it every time.

I know I've written a couple of posts about idiotic emails but the IM messages are even worse. As much as some of the emails that I get are either horrifying and/or hilarious, the IM messages are a whole other category. Case in point:

"any interest?"

Ummm, okay, I'll bite. Any interest in what?
Global warming? Yes. I find it fascinating that there are people that still don't believe it's a real thing, and I'm doing my small part to try to reduce my carbon footprint.
A good movie or book? Yes. I don't see movies that often but read all the time. I love losing myself in a good story. If you haven't read Gone Girl, do before you go see the movie.
An awesome meal and a strong margarita or a good Malbec? Yes. I love food. I have curves for a very good reason and that reason is calories. That saying "nothing tastes better than skinny feels"... you've heard that one. Clearly those people don't get enough good food to eat, because nothing is better than chocolate or bacon.
Whether the SF Giants can keep up the momentum and take it all the way to the World Series? Absofuckinglutely. I have a terrible crush on Buster Posey and don't care who knows it.

Beyond that, I'm gonna have to pass and shake my head at you and just plain NOT reply to your hugely vague IM. Not only are you hundreds and hundreds of miles away from me, but clearly you neither know what you're looking for (as apparent by your lack of any way to communicate that via the written word), nor have you anything even remotely interesting to say on any topic that would make me want to engage in some sort of dialog with you. Sorry dude, THIS is why no one replies to your lame IM messages. They are, in fact, lame.

On the other hand:
"i want to bury my tounge deep inside ur ass"

Typo aside, that one actually got a reaction from me. First of all I laughed. I couldn't help it. I have a twisted sense of humor, I know. I was just thinking to myself over and over "really?!?! seriously?!?! Who even says that?" But then I remembered I was on Local Sexy Swingers and tons in people do, including me, so I let that one go. I won't hold crass talk against you for too long. Ha ha! And then I thought well at least I don't have to guess what he's looking for, as he pretty much put it right there in black and white. So, I clicked on his profile to check out the goods. Cute. Maybe too cute. Well written profile so I know he does actually have the ability to form a clear thought. Great pics. Oh my. Really great pics. Hmmmm... Thinking. Thinking. Thinking. Ok, I'll reply. "Ok, you have my attention." We proceeded to have what I would then characterize as a very normal conversation on IM. We didn't end up meeting due to schedules but it was a good chat nonetheless.

So what does this mean in the grand IM scheme of things? For me, it's this. Boring and vague will get you nowhere with me. I just don't do boring. You really just have to be prepared to BRING IT and do it in a fashion that will not only capture my attention but hold it as well. While I may not ever initiate a conversation on IM, when I am on my mobile device I may in fact click over there to see who has messaged me, and maybe, just maybe, if it's original enough and I'm in the right mood, you may just have started something good.


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submokey 69M/62F
10383 posts
10/13/2014 1:28 pm

When I use my phone, use full web site, so doesn't go to IM, which I'm not fond of at all!

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schothot69 54F  
299 posts
10/13/2014 1:50 pm

Yeah, I know about the full web version, but that makes navigating email a nightmare so I don't use it a lot. I'm using it now to post this but will switch back to mobile for general browsing.

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ironman2769 58M  
12877 posts
10/13/2014 2:26 pm

I haven't used IM for a long time. I can't remember the last time someone responded to me. It's a number game, more guys than women hanging out on IM....

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discreteSteve62 50M
2169 posts
10/20/2014 12:58 am

I've never tried the instant message feature, even when I was a Gold user. I found text chat fun back in the 1980s, but bulletin boards and private e-mail are so much better suited to thoughtful conversation.

Sure, people write idiotic text shorthand in e-mail and on bulletin boards, but at least in those settings it's recognized as idiotic. In text chat, it's fairly standard. Even I used the occasional shorthand back in the day, for things that were particularly common, such as "AFK" (away from keyboard). But when people write "u" to save two keystrokes at the expense of clarity and aesthetics, it's time to abandon the medium.

I don't use the site on my phone all that much, but given the uselessness of the mobile interface, I'm just pleased that my phone's screen is large enough that it allows the site to be used with the full version.


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