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Discretion
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Discretion I'm not a stranger to Local Sexy Swingers and I recently realized something. I'll be on the home page and look who is online and close to me and if ANYBODY says "Discretion is a must." My instinct is to try to talk to that person immediately. It just happened to me just now. Unfortunately that person got offline before I could IM them, but that's not the point. The point I want to get to here is all about discretion. It's a very strange thing, but we all know it to be true. People will pretend to be discreet. I have had a couple of completely discreet relationships in my life. Mostly due to the fact that I worked with the other person and it would mean our jobs. It was always successful, I never got fired for it, nobody till this day even knows about it really. It wasn't exactly EASY. You have feelings for someone, you may even be in Love with them, but you have to ALWAYS act like you have no interest in them. The person who turns you on the most, could be wearing something really hot, DOING something really hot, and you can't look. You have to look at them ONLY when it makes sense for the job. You can't stick up for them at all. They WILL get mad about this, but hopefully they won't fold and end the relationship and your job all in one fell swoop. So... it is very risky. Then one time I had a discreet relationship with someone I didn't work with. I wasn't attached at the time but there were a few girls out there I liked and they were all pretty oldschool and one was important to me. If I was fucking someone today and she found out, she wasn't dating me for awhile. This "Discreet" relationship ended nearly twelve hours later when the person very literally announced our sexual activities to my whole of friends. She wasn't out to hurt me, she was complementing me. I'm pretty sure her idea was that if the girls I want know I'm good in bed, they would spark an interest. It didn't work of course, it basically cock blocked me for a couple of weeks. (I didn't actually have sex again for about 6 months, but that much time had nothing to do with her.) So even a sweet person, out to help you out can get really anxious and spill what they know should be secret. I see it fail all the time. It's USUALLY the girl who goes public with it, because the guy is trying to hide it and she didn't realize that. He's an asshole who just wants to bang and keep it on the DL so he can still bang someone else too. There's also the complication that in a discreet relationship, emotions WILL happen. Anger is an emotion. People can get angry enough to expose you. I'm pretty sure some people get into discreet relationships knowing that they won't let the relationship end without it being written on all the walls. Those are BAD people. It's quite a simple thing... if you ever want to ruin someones life all you have to do is SAY something at that point. So CHEERS to the spies, the undercover, the shadow walkers. Those who don't expose no matter how pissed you are at the person. Those who keep their emails clean, their spending off the grid, the exits silent. I am not alone on this secret, plenty of you out there can be discreet. I just hope people find LIKE people. |
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I couldn't agree more. I am one of those people that have that "discretion is a must" statement on their profile and I am sometimes paranoid beyond rational thought when meet someone about the lengths I will go to keep my ayff life separate from my day-to-day activities. So if you read that and tried to talk to me immediately it wouldn't work. You have to put in a lot more effort to get past the first discretion barrier LOL!. But you're right - people fail at discretion all the time. I know way too much personal information about a lot of guys who don't even know my last name. A huge part of discretion is about trust. If you don't have trust, you won't ever get discretion. Even guys that have turned out to be total assess I still kept my word with. well... for now anyway. buwahahahahahahah!!! 
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LOL, I have been guilty myself of letting a girl know everything about myself without knowing nothing about her. Once you realize that it's a huge red light. Discretion is strange. You need to trust someone, but trust them to be a lie, just not to you. yet they have to be a lie to get to you. It's some rhythm only certain people can get. I would compare it to swinging. I myself would never swing... just take my girl to a place in hopes that we both have sex with other people. I'd rather just have tons of sex with her. But my sexual wish list comes later. Yet plenty of people swear by threesomes. Things have changed since I was a kid. "Open" relationships are all over the place. You can have a kid together, never get married, raise them right yet go separate ways. People go straight up on web sights and submit threesomes they DISCREETLY had online for everyone to see, and it works. This is EXACTLY what I wanted to see. Public gets to see it and respond, privately no one knows it happened. FREEDOM
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