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The First Time
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The First Time For me, meeting a new couple is always a nervous adventure. Will they be as nice in person as they were on the phone? Does she really want to do a threesome, or is she just going along to please her man? Will they still want me after they see me face-to-face? When I meet a couple for the first time I watch for signs. When I arrive, are they sitting in a booth or at a table? If they're sitting in a booth, are they sitting across from each other or side-by-side? If side-by-side, who's sitting on the outside, the man or woman? If they're at a table, are they across from each other? If they're in a booth sitting next to each other and she's on the outside it's an indication that she wants to be there and wants to be the first to greet me. If she's on the inside she looks trapped and might not really want to be there. At a table, are they sitting across from each other, allowing me to sit between them, or next to each other, making me choose who to sit next to? I watch to see who is first to greet me. It let's me know which one may be shy. Do they offer to shake hands or go for a hug? If she goes to hug me does she put her hands on my shoulder blades or is one hand between my shoulder blades and the other on my lower back? The first is friendly and polite. The second is warm and inviting. As we talk does she pull back if I touch her hand or arm,perhaps indicating this is not her idea. Does she reach to touch my hand and arm? Does she reach for the necklace I'm wearing to admire it as a pretense to get closer to me? Does she lean away from me if I reach for her necklace, or does she lean forward and raise her chin allowing me to touch her chest and see her breasts? If she pulls away it could be she is just shy or nervous. But, it could also be she is there because her man talking her into it. If she is still pulling away or seems uncomfortable after we've talked for a while then she's not ready for me to share her bed and her man. If she starts off being shy,but then starts to relax, letting me touch her hand or arm then she's probably a willing participant. Who does most of the talking can show who's in charge. If they both share the conversation equally it shows they are a sharing couple. If we're all comfortable and she and I have been touching each other then I usually suggest we go to their room where we can talk more openly, if she hasn't already suggested it. If he suggests going to their room I always look to her for confirmation before I agree. If the meeting is not going well, but I'm attracted to the couple and I think it's nerves or one of them being shy I'll suggest we meet again at a better time. If I think one of them isn't into it I thank them for the drink and tell them we're not a fit. Sometimes I want to be a naive young woman and sometimes I want to be a slut, but I always want to be treated with respect.  Ann |
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Wow!! Who would have ever guessed there was this much being analyzed when we meet someone. We have to take notes in case we ever get a chance to meet up with Ann. I guess she learned all of this at Unicorn University. LOL!! Whether a booth or a table, we always sit across from each other unless we're expecting someone else. In that case we sit on the same side and the male sits on the outside (more leg room without kicking someone). That also means that the male 1/2 is the first to greet anyone we meet, but wifey typically stands up to meet them, as well, if at a table. Booths are harder to get out of, but she always greats them either way. Neither of us are ever for sure if it should be a handshake so as not to seem too forward or a hug. Guys typically shake hands, but it's always a hit and miss when there's a lady involved. That's always been awkward for us to determine what's appropriate whether meeting a couple or a single for the first time. If there's a second meeting, the ladies all get kisses from everyone. Guys.... we still shake hands with each other. LMAO!!
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Hell, that is a lot to take in. Thinking back on our social gathering we tend to mix it up when it come to who sits where. With new people we meet it is invariably hand shakes all round at first and maybe a hug and kiss when parting. I is something I will keep an eye open for.
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Jerry: There is no substitute for a face-to-face meeting. There is so much you can tell from people's body language and facial expressions that you'll never get from chatting over email or text. There are some studies that indicate that over 50% of what is communicated is non-verbal. Of course, that only applies when the people communicating are face-to-face. I like reading the non-verbal queues. It allows me to adapt my communication method during a conversation. If a person looks confused, I know I need to add clarity. If a person looks uncomfortable, I know to lighten the mood or change the subject. If a person looks disinterested in what I'm saying, I know to change the subject to something more interesting ... or learn to tell a better story. Lol! I suspect you are correct, Ann. We all do this to some degree. Everyone is different. Some probably don't think about how they react to some of the non-verbal queues. They simply react. While others may pay very close attention. It's a fascinating topic to me. 
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5/18/2016 8:17 pm |
Great incite on small details. Many miss the subtle nuances of body language these days. Some very useful information for future meetings.
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Fabulous post and I could not agree more with the majority of your observations. We all watch for signs whether you realize it or not. We regard it as an integral aspect of the amazing ritual of a first date; a skillfully choreographed tango if you will. For us, it begins with the anticipation that builds up in the days that lead up to the set date. It builds to a crescendo just hours before we meet as I get my hair and nails done wondering the entire time about you. I try to keep my emotions in check while still wishing for an amazing evening. Will I (we) like both of them if it is a couple? What if I feel a strong attraction to her but not him (it has occurred) and are they both committed to this endeavor or is it very one sided. If it is a unicorn, are we both attracted to her and she to us? I hope so.... Once the encounter begins, so does the dance. The initial meeting can go a long way towards putting everyone at ease. The polite handshake is nice but a wonderful hug and how it is enacted can be most inviting and welcomed. I neglected to mention one critical observation; does she or do they resemble the photo(s) that we have seen? Is the answer a delightful yes or hell no! And like you, we continue to look for and anticipate the close encounters that provide for a rewarding first date. Does her body involuntarily react positively when I touch her and does she pull closer to me as the night progresses if we are in a booth? Is the conversation amazing and covering a universe of subjects? Will you be forthcoming and naughty and tell us about a delicious previous encounter? I'll tell if you will.... And so it goes throughout the night until it comes to the time when all must decide, what next? The truth be told, my husband knows me better than I do in these situations and he always knows the answer before I do, especially when I am captivated by you. If the answer is no, then we still look to the positive and hope that everyone had a wonderful dinner & drinks and part ways wishing her/them best wishes and kindest regards. Again, looking to the positive, my husband and I then retire to conclude our own private dance that we have been having since we first met.
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11/13/2016 5:03 am |
I love reading your work. you are an awesome writer
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