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The Emotional Manipulator
The Emotional Manipulator We all have that Sad Sack coworker has had endure every hard luck story imaginable... Our Sad Sack transferred to our store about a month ago and works for Nose Hairs. We had done a company luncheon a few weeks ago and she had complained to that we didn't have a vegan option. While I sympathized with her, I did tell her that we had a budget to work within and we were using local restaurants that may or may not have vegan options available to us. It was her choice to participate with what food options we had available or choose not to. I always make sure is a salad option for the employees as we have people with gluten intolerance, allergies, and other dietary restrictions.... So she did not have to go without. It was after the fact that I was talking with Nose Hairs and he had filled in on her self proclaimed emotional journey.... Abusive husband, no , to feed and support.... I told him to beware, he didn't want to get wrapped up in her 'feel sorry for ' web. He looked at like I was heartless and said he couldn't help but feel sorry for her, it sounded like she was struggling. She had him hooked! I've seen this girl before.... She'll cry because she needs hours but she'll call in all the time. You'll work miracles make her availability fit into the schedule you're writing but then she'll cry because real life has suddenly happened and she has to miss a day for a doctor's appointment. You'll feel bad for her because her rent is late and she's turned on the water works but she refused to work any extra hours because she can't work past sundown on Friday night due to her religion. I just smiled, said I didn't feel sorry for people like that, and walked away knowing full well this story was going to come full circle. And, it did. Imagine my lack of surprise when Nose Hairs came to me, yesterday, complaining the Sad Sack wasn't going to be coming to work at all and he wasn't going to feel sorry for her anymore because she didn't have any . "So, [Sad Sack] just texted . She over slept. Apparently she's decided to just not come in at all." "It's like 2 o'clock. What time was she scheduled?" "That's not the point. She overslept?? So, she's not coming in at all?? It doesn't get dark out until 5. She's always crying because she's broke, she could be working some hours." I knew she was scheduled at 6am and probably didn't call in at all, just deciding to Nose Hairs cover her bases. "Why does matter if 's dark?" "Because of her stupid religion, remember? She can't work past dark on Friday's." "You realize she's got you wrapped. You just allowed her get out of an improper call in and she left you short. She knows you're going let this stuff happen so she's now working her angles." He just looked at me... But was like a light went on in his head. He knew I was right. "You said this was going happen, and, you were right...." Here's the thing. really is no difference between Sad Sack and I other than what we've chosen do with our life. Sad Sack relies on emotional manipulation and pity survive, always looking for someone 'take care of her'. I know this type of person well as this was my mother. I learned very early on that this was NOT the life I was going live. I knew that if I wanted things out of life, I needed make them happen. I needed be smart, I needed be kind, and I needed be able take care of myself because nobody else out probably would. " |
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luv ur boobs
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She's abusing the system as well as your trust.
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She's abusing the system as well as your trust.
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luv ur boobs
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somebody's damaged but I don't think it's you.....
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I've met her. Drugs, money, or attention, she works harder to have things given to her than it would take to get them herself.
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11/21/2020 2:40 pm |
I've met her. Drugs, money, or attention, she works harder to have things given to her than it would take to get them herself.
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11/21/2020 2:38 pm |
I sometimes worry that I come across to others as damaged....
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again when talking about yourself, it is so sexy to me
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again when talking about yourself, it is so sexy to me
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Secret I worked for a guy like that, he was promoted in from another plant, to a position no one knew existed! His previous boss just wanted him gone. Within 3 months of him arriving in Hamburg, he got a local girl pregnant with twins, moved in with her. To cut a long story short, 4 years later he has 3 kids, and she is screwing around with her ex!! My colleagues and I used to have a system, put a red dot on the calendar every day he didn't show!! The amazing thing was that his immediate boss thought the sun shone out of his ass, but he wasn't in the same plant as us
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Nods in agreement. We all have that one Sad Sack at various points in our lives. I refer to them as Eeyores. They also can possess the uncanny ability to suck the life out of any room they enter. I don’t display mercy for them either but I have helped one or two in the past. I’d rather be Tigger. Boing!!
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I stopped hanging out with one of my childhood friends a few years ago for reasons like this. She was 'unable' to work and expected the state to pay for her.... Ended up homeless... Car broke down.... Her ex-husband got custody of the kids.... It was all her own doing.
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BTDT. There are those who seem ever caught in the "whoa is me." I do not point fingers. I have had my dark days as well. I still have them. However, like you, I don't see the need to long invest myself in people who are emotional black holes. As Jesus once said somewhere, "The poor you will always have with you." I have worked besides men who earned as much or more than I did and yet were always living on a shoe string. I was raised to take responsibility for you own life and never be dependent on the handout of others. Again, I don't point fingers. We are all fighting our battles as best as we can.
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It's funny you say that, I told Nose Hairs he was enabling her by allowing this behavior to continue. I don't really cross paths with her, she I don't get much interaction thankfully.
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I've nae time for people like that who just take a loan of anyone who's prepared to give them the time of day. They just suck the life out of things, put their problems on other people, and cry foul when they don't get their own way. Nope........we all have problems and trial and difficulty, we all get on with them......so can she! Kids are starving for lack of food for goodness' sake! I cannot imagine you ever being one of those McLade!
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Secret I worked for a guy like that, he was promoted in from another plant, to a position no one knew existed! His previous boss just wanted him gone. Within 3 months of him arriving in Hamburg, he got a local girl pregnant with twins, moved in with her. To cut a long story short, 4 years later he has 3 kids, and she is screwing around with her ex!! My colleagues and I used to have a system, put a red dot on the calendar every day he didn't show!! The amazing thing was that his immediate boss thought the sun shone out of his ass, but he wasn't in the same plant as us Please visit my Blog "Older but no Wiser"
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Nods in agreement. We all have that one Sad Sack at various points in our lives. I refer to them as Eeyores. They also can possess the uncanny ability to suck the life out of any room they enter. I don’t display mercy for them either but I have helped one or two in the past. I’d rather be Tigger. Boing!! My name is MrWrong and I approved this comment
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BTDT. There are those who seem ever caught in the "whoa is me." I do not point fingers. I have had my dark days as well. I still have them. However, like you, I don't see the need to long invest myself in people who are emotional black holes. As Jesus once said somewhere, "The poor you will always have with you." I have worked besides men who earned as much or more than I did and yet were always living on a shoe string. I was raised to take responsibility for you own life and never be dependent on the handout of others. Again, I don't point fingers. We are all fighting our battles as best as we can.
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Wow... You guys have a lot of drama and real life going on there. Hmmm... Sad and poignant and well... it's what it is, right? Over here? My reality is thinking about making a TP run and hoping that I can make it back alive - before the wolves tear into me. Reality is different things for different people. And we each have our own to manage. It's getting fucking tough out there, isn't it? 🤔
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Wow... You guys have a lot of drama and real life going on there. Hmmm... Sad and poignant and well... it's what it is, right? Over here? My reality is thinking about making a TP run and hoping that I can make it back alive - before the wolves tear into me. Reality is different things for different people. And we each have our own to manage. It's getting fucking tough out there, isn't it? 🤔 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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I've nae time for people like that who just take a loan of anyone who's prepared to give them the time of day. They just suck the life out of things, put their problems on other people, and cry foul when they don't get their own way. Nope........we all have problems and trial and difficulty, we all get on with them......so can she! Kids are starving for lack of food for goodness' sake! I cannot imagine you ever being one of those McLade!
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