The Basement
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Posted:Apr 10, 2010 2:53 am
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I am truly disappointed, the basement is suppose to be a place for those interested and those who live with the lifestyle of BDSM. The intro even says reserved for those B&D members, yet it has become nothing more than a cyber room. When I first came to the room it was helpful in some ways to me, but I found it was a place for those into BDSM to help others learn what BDSM was. Yes, it was more a Dom/sub room, but it was a outlet for many to learn what it really meant to be a Dom or sub.
I met a lot of real life Dom/mes and their subs, I saw a lot of people learn it was more than just cyber play. It was a room for those wanting to explore to learn, before being hurt by wanna be players. That isn't the story any more, the real people have gone because the players apparently have more power than those that are real.
I went to the room tonight 4/09/10 to visit with friends, I rarely get the chance anymore since I found the one I desire, but I wanted to see some ole friends, instead I found the room to be almost non existant. All because one person apparently was able to drive them all away, who claims to be a sub, but in no way acts as one, has been able to distroy one of the few places for those interested in BDSM to learn.
To add to my disappointment, I had been in the room the previous night, as I waited for friends, a woman entered the room, she was looking to be dominated ( Cyber ), she had no clue was it was really about, what BDSM is about. She was in a relationship, but it didn't give what she wanted, after talking for a hour ( offering advise, I don't cyber ), she found another way to get her partner more involved in a satisfactory way. She had no idea how a BDSM ( in this case a Dom/sub ) relationship worked.
It makes me wonder, had I not been there to offer help, would she have found some wanna be to play a silly game, only to end up with pain or perhaps ending her marriage ?
There use to be a time when the basement offered more than the website Alt.com, but now I wonder, since the Dom/mes in the basement offer no help or protection anymore. I use to have a great respect for the Basement and though I haven't been able to be there as much as I use to, it has gone to shit.
The few Doms that remain, or should I say one that showed up, proved to be a player who found it easier to put on iggy ( Me ) rather than to expose the player who has ruined the room ( Issabella ). Now I don't completely put blame on Issabella, I am ashamed that those who Claimed to be Dom/mes allowed this to happen and the subs who did not stand with them.
A great many people with excellent knowledge no longer visit the basement, which is a tremendous loss to those wishing to learn and be safe. It is sad to think that there is no place for those with experience can share or protect those new to the lifestyle. You can see it when you read profiles and they say, no players, liars or cheaters need apply.
Yet, players, liars and cheaters invade every room A F F offers and people get hurt, some of those people who get hurt are of those who were here when A F F first began.
Cyber rooms are all fine, but the "Basement" use to be a place where newbies could learn, not control.
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When the lines are no Longer Grey
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Posted:Aug 16, 2007 8:15 pm
Last Updated:May 25, 2010 3:20 pm
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When do you decided that the fantasy is a reality ? I have met many here who have become more important to me than my real life family. Yes, my family is disfunctional, yet we love each other and are close, but there are some I have become very close to me here and I probably would do more for them than my real time family.
I've met a few people here in real time and most have remained friends, because of their honesty. There are also some I haven't met who I built a trust and admiration to, they are no less important to me.
So many come to seeking a temporary friendship and do not see these people as living human beings. They see them as actors, just as they do on their television, or as a video game. They see people as toys, they think of themselves and not as to what they are doing to another person.
Eventually, the lines between reality and fantasy become grey to them. These people become dangerous, because even in reality, they will act out and cause physical or mental damage to another person. People like to express thoughts or fantasy online and when the opportunity comes in real life, they either run for the hills or they practice something someone else suggested.
They forget people have a heart that beats, they forget that flesh protects our bodies or that blood flowing from the body is real. Chat is not a video game, it is real people talking.
Real people... What a conncept ! Believe it or not I am real, I am a real person writing this, not a computer generated program. The people I talk to are real, physically. Though I suspect some think they are invurnerable. They sadly would be mistaken and it has been proven they are not.
The brain is a powerful tool, it was designed to help us grow and realize the difference between fantasy and reality. The reality is, in chat we build relationships, some by the words they speak and some by the actions they set. Like a lie detector, in time ( when watched ) a persons true colors will show, it can't be hidden. It's ony when we veiw with reality that it can be seen, but when the lines of reality and fantasy meet, it becomes grey.
Life has never been black and white, it has been how we view it.
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You can like me or not
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Posted:Aug 14, 2007 8:05 pm
Last Updated:Jul 17, 2016 7:08 am
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I suppose this one has been along coming, I've touched on it before, but perhaps a little clarification might be in order.
I came to A F F to meet and chat people, as the world is made of many different personalities, so are the chat rooms. I don't expect everyone to like me, nor do I sell myself to achieve it. I am not always a good person and I don't expect everyone, including those I deem as friends to be as well. We all have our days.
What I do expect is for those I see to be themselves and sometimes we get more than we wished for. However, if you want honesty or my opinion, you will get it, whether you like it or not. I am not here to play games and for those that know me, what I was looking for I have found. I remain here because I have made many friends and wish to chat with them, to stay in touch with them and possibly make more friends.
In the time I have been on this sight, I apparently have build many friends, much respect and also enemies. I don't expect to be respected other than what one would have for another human being. As for enemies, well, you can't make everyone happy and if you disrepect my friends, I will be the first one to stand up, that is who I am and what friends mean to me.
I was contacted by a friend the other night, they voiced concerns about anothers behavior and when I confronted this person, some put me on ignore, some who I considered friends. They are still considered friends in my eyes, but they obviously were not good friends if they did not understand my goal.
My goals have always been to just have people act as they would if they were face to face and not hide behind a computer screen. People have different views and I accept that, but I can not stand by and watch my friends be trashed or hurt.
I hate to put labels on people, but when it is obvious what their goals are and there's a chance my friends might be mislead, I have to say something. You may not be my best friend and I may not be yours, but I shall be one who will do all I can as a friend.
I don't care what your thoughts of me are, I care more of what my thoughts of you are and there are sooo many I care a lot about. Some more than others, but I will still do the same for any one of them.
Like me if you wish or dislike me, that is your choice. What I do is for those I see as friends and that you can not change. I am who I am, nothing more, nothing less.
Sire
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Time
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Posted:Aug 11, 2007 8:09 am
Last Updated:Jul 17, 2016 7:15 am
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Everything in life is about time, it has different values to everyone as to how they spend it. Just like money it has a value, you can waste it or put it to use, though unlike money, time can't be saved, but it can be treasured.
Time can be invested by sharing it with friends you love and the returns of your investment can last a life time.
Some invest their time playing games, like a in a candy store. It gives moments of pleasure, but the returns of the investment only last for moments.
Time has all the answers, if you spend some of it to think, but the value of time is what you spend it on thinking about. Spending time thinking about how sad your life is does not have any value. Spending time thinking about how and why your life is sad, may offer a increased value. Thinking about how to improve your life has the greatest value, if those thoughts are put to use.
Time doesn't stand still, we spend our time whether we want to or not. So spend it wisely, eventually our time runs out.
Time can be reflected, looked back upon to remind us of good times well spent or bad times, which can be used find answers on how to better spend our time.
A time out isn't really a time out, the grains of sand still fall. Time has one speed, it can't be out run or caught up on.
So if you spent the time reading this blog, then perhaps spending a little time to tell us how your time was spent ? Or perhaps, was this a waste of your time or not ?
Thank You
Sire
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This New Age...
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Posted:Jul 29, 2007 9:09 pm
Last Updated:Jul 17, 2016 7:19 am
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So many titles can be given to this blog, the thoughts running through my mind, always wondering, always thinking.
I was thinking of a friend who I met here, who says they will not return and I had to wonder why ? In large groups such as chat, there will always be people who do not see eye to eye with you, there will be people who are jealous of you and some who will respect you. It is what happens when we all use the freedom of speech and thought. We are after all individuals.
In the world of chat however, we are given a freedom. A chance to hide behind the screen and be who or what our fantasies lead us to be, without the concern of being found. Or are you ?
It is easy to pretend, but actions, re-action and words can spell out who or what you are, if someone takes the time to notice. I myself have seen many honest people here, even those who try to be more than they are, without realizing it, they still show who they are.
No one looks to the future anymore, not in the sense of when the games end and when life is coming to a close. Most here seem to be looking for that quick fix, their daily life is struggling so they come here, play a game in hopes it will make them feel better. How long will that last ? What happens when your so old you can't read the computer screen anymore ?
A day will come for all of us when we're too old or ill to play games. This is what the future holds for us, it can't be fixed quickly. So why do so many play games, why do they fight so hard for a moment of pleasure ? In the end, when life begins to close it's door, they most likely will be alone, the internet friends will send meaningless condolences, but your still alone, because you were busy playing games.
I see so many striving to prove to everyone how good they are, yet they fail to look at themselves. The phrase "Do unto others as you would have others do unto you", seems to escape them. I'm not a religous person, but those words still carry meaning to me. In the basement, so many pop in with a claim to fame, but it is not for the benefit of others, it's just to get their own personal joy.
This is a dating site, dating meaning looking for someone who brings you pleasure in life. In order to have pleasure, you need to find someone who will mentally satisfy your fantasy of life. Yet, life is not a fantasy, eventually life will come to a end for all of us. So perhaps instead of playing games or living a fantasy, why not try just being yourself ?
One can not find that person to walk with them through life to the end, unless they first know who they are and what they want. Finding that one person who will accept you for who you are can only be achieved by being who you are. That will be the one who will be beside you till the end. If your not who you are, the day will come when the one you thought would grow old with you will wake up leave, then you're alone again.
It may seem like it took a long time to get to the age you are now, but life is still short and before you've had time to actually build that love, it might be too late. So many at adulthood seem to want to play games for that quick fix, they forget, one day the end will come and they are alone, too old to do anything.
We were not created to be alone and we were not created to cyber, but it seems that is where many are striving to be. Life is about growing, learning and sharing, it is not all about sex. Sex is as nature designed it to be, the pleasure of reproducing, populating the world, the survival of humans. Sex has many pleasures, with many joys, but it is not all what life is about.
We were not designed to live life alone, or we wouldn't need another to reproduce and we wouldn't have the internet, if people didn't share thoughts with others. Mankind/Womankind didn't get this far by playing games or abusing others. We got here because people looked to the future, unlike what many here in the chat rooms seem to see.
Chat rooms, I would hope, were to bring people closer together. A way for people to share ideas, each other and to make the world a better place. Not to be a place to play games with people or to toy with them.
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Apparently I'm venting !
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Posted:Jun 19, 2007 8:42 pm
Last Updated:Jul 17, 2016 7:25 am
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I have been criticised for how I view the "basement" to be. There have been many who stand up and be brave when I'm not there to say things about me. They talk about me, but in reality, what does it say about them ?
I've had arguments before with people in chat, and it ends after I have or the other have left the chat room. I say nothing of others in the open room, I may state my opinion when asked privately, but that is as far as it goes. I've also been goated in the chat room to reinstate such arguments and I admit it sometimes is a struggle to refrain.
There have been arguments about who has been there longer, so does being there longer make them more right? Does it count who has more friends? Does it count that they have chat lingo down?
Does any of it matter ? What is more important ? Is it not important that people be honest? Is it not important that people care for others?
They say it is just chat ? This is a Sex site! Have you looked for a site where adults act as adults and wanted just to chat with adults ? The name is " Local Sexy Swingers", but in small print is says "Sex and swingers", but does that make it exclusive to that ?
I've seen too many come into the chat rooms crying how they have been mislead and hurt. I see too many crying just for the attention. There even far too many trying to draw in the unsuspecting into a trap.
Where are the lines drawn? When do we stop acting as adults and allow this behavior?
They say imitation is a form of flattery and I have been imitated, which I suppose is flattery, but the imitation is only taken so far and they fail to follow through. I am not perfect, but I do care about those I have yet to meet and I do care about those I have met, why is that part so hard to copy ?
I do not believe I have ever mislead anyone or deceived anyone in any way, why is that so hard to copy?
Life is too short to play games, besides the greatest game in life is to live. The best way to win the game is to be who you are and find the one that fits into it or fit into theirs. The planet is filled with billions of people, there is someone for everyone if you take the time to find the one or ones who fit into what you seek, but you will only find them if your true to yourself and to them.
Why do so many wish or need to make it so complicated ? Why do they feel the need to be someone or something they are not? You reap what you sew, so why not be the best you can, do you not think you will recieve what is best for you?
My last blog recieved only 5 comments in which I was applauded, yet there were over 50 views to date, what does that say ?
I do not use the ignore option or the block option, I welcome all advice and comments to tell tell me I am right or wrong. Life is a learning process, when we close our minds we lose life and I am tired of loosing friends.
There are too many petty arguments, too many test as to who is real and who is not, who is nilla and who isn't.
Lifestyle is how we style our lives, it is not about who seeks pain or bondage ! It is about sharing our knowledge, how what we've learned and sharing it with others so they might find what they are seeking or not seeking !
I care about your pains in life, but I care more about how your resolving them, rather than listening to them. We make our own bed, why not make it comfortable enough to share instead of making is uncomfortable?
Life is simple if you take time to think about it, so why not think ?
The day becomes darker as to our time here, we've made many friends here, but the number against us out weighs those who see life as we do. To those we are friends with, we shall strive to stay in touch with and to those who view us otherwise we shall hope and pray the light will find it's way to you oneday.
Sire
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The Basement ( We're not in High School anymore Toto )
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Posted:Jun 13, 2007 11:52 am
Last Updated:Jul 10, 2007 9:45 am
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The Basement is reserved for our B & D members - you WANT to go to the basement, you MUST go to the basement, you WILL go to the basement... If you're looking for quick, kinky sex, please use another room!
That is what the entrance to the Basement states, it does not say Cam room, Cyber room or Day Care. Local Sexy Swingers does provide 4 rooms just for Cams and 2+ rooms for Cyber, it even provides a room for those who just want to argue.
I really dislike standing up on the soap box and telling everyone how to act and behave, we're adults and not anymore. I'm not alone in my thoughts, there's quite a few who get disgusted at the petty arguing, the Cams and the whining, but most are afraid to say anything because it would only increase the childish behavior.
I really dislike Cams in the basement, the only purpose they promote is taking away any decent conversations and opens the door for anyone with a Cam to come in and play around. It's been said "Cams are for attention whores" and then there's the argument that you can put a face with those your talking to. If attention is what you seek, there are Cam rooms, if you want a face to know who your talking to, look at the profiles or ask them to send a face picture via e-mail.
The arguing is ridiculous, most of the time it is because of a simple misunderstanding or over something petty. I admit that when I first came here I fell into that trap and had to take a step back and realize what I was doing. We are not , we would be upset if we saw our act that way, so why should we act that way ? There's been arguements over people stealing someone away, you can't steal someone if they're still looking and if they're still looking, you didn't have them in the first place.
I seriously doubt whoever came up with the idea of chat rooms thought it would be a good place for people to do half of what is done there. When I first came to the basement, it seemed to be one of the more intelligent chat rooms I had found, but it has changed and many of the good people frequent it less more and more lately, because there are less adults and more childish behaviors.
If you ask people why they came to the basement, you will find most answer " to be with like minded people " or to learn. A small percentage will say, to play out a fantasy. New people come to the basement everyday because they want to learn, but when there is childish behavior, they learn nothing. Some come to be with like minded people, but when they see so many acting inmature, they soon leave. Everyday, someone says the basement is a friendly place, until they see all the arguing and they leave.
I like to think of the basement as a relaxed place where friends gather, share a drink, some laughs and ideas. A place where conversation is intelligent, entertaining and educational. Like a backyard BBQ or a dinner party with friends, a place where everyone benefits from the company of friends. I suppose that is just a fantasy.
BDSM can be very pleasurable to those who know, but to those who don't, it can be very dangerous and when " newbies" see the so-called experienced act foolishly, more often than not, they will see it as a game and most often get hurt physically and emotionally.
We all walk our own path in life, but the path should lead forward and not backwards. We're suppose to learn from our mistakes and not make the same mistake again. When we make a mistake, learn from it and understand why we made it, not come to the basement and cry to everyone for sympathy, share your mistake so that perhaps others can learn from you. Making mistakes is not a bad thing, we all make them and we're going to make more, try to share what you've learned and grow from it.
The basement has had some wonderful people come to it and has had some wonderful people leave it.
Thank you
Sire
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No Longer Walking Alone
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Posted:May 30, 2007 11:46 am
Last Updated:Jun 11, 2007 6:56 am
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It Seems the heavens above have smiled down up on me and have brought someone to me who brightens my world. She has filled my heart, made me smile for no reason at all and accepts me for who and what I am.
To me, she is absolutely wonderful, she's kind hearted with never a bad word to say about anyone. She has a smile that can outshine the sun on the brightest of days. Her warmth of heart and soul is unequaled, and her honesty is without question, this is what I have searched for, this is what I have found.
She has a gentle spirit that fit's her old screen name of gntlspirit, but now she is my precious1 and in my heart I believe she will always be that to me.
I had to let her go home for now and when I came home, the home felt empty to me, for she was not here. The days ahead will be for working on bringing her back permanently so that a life together can be built and preserved.
For those that have found out and wished us well and congratulated us, we thank you and we shall strive to show you were right in doing so.
Sire
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It makes you wonder
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Posted:May 8, 2007 8:41 am
Last Updated:May 25, 2010 3:22 pm
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It's amazing to watch people interracting in the chat rooms and how some behave. Considering this a adult site, meaning 18 years old and up, so many so called adults do not act like adults.
Chatting is a great way to relax, make friends and share ideas, it's fun to joke around with friends or some light teasing and flirting. It makes you wonder sometimes if there some kind of chemical reaction or hidden messages that makes adults act like .
Even though some call this a sex site, does that mean acting like ? Maybe I'm just getting old and grumpy, but I came to this site to avoid chatting with . When you can see the age of people, whether in their profile or simply next to the name in the chat room, you have to wonder. Many of these people have , even grand and you have to wonder would they let the act like that ?
Would a parent let their dance around, chase Cam trolls, be a Cam troll or chase/flirt with anyone or everyone ? A little flirting seems alright, but some take it to the extreme to the point of rediculous. Then there are those who find someone instantly to play with without taking time to know the real person and then cry in the room because they let themselves be mislead.
Would a parent let their call a total stranger "babe, hun, sweety, ect...", or let their be call that by a total stranger ?
As I said, maybe I'm just getting old and I don't get it, but I wonder if some of these people go to Mc Donalds and order the happy meal just for the toys. Do they act that way in public, like at the grocery store or in a tavern ?
I can understand that people display being happy or send hugs, even kisses to those they have gotten to know. There are ways to flirt, tease and play without acting like a . There are ways of arguing without acting like a . We are suppose to be adults.
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The Games People Play
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Posted:Apr 10, 2007 9:15 am
Last Updated:May 8, 2007 5:48 pm
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The internet has made the world a smaller place, it brings people together from all over the world. There are so many different characters, some who seek the friendship of others, some who seek love and some to learn from the knowledge that can be shared.
Unfortunately, there are some who are predators, some who play out fantasies they could not achieve in the real world. Just as there are incredibly great people on the internet, there are just as many, if not more, that are very dangerous.
People get a false security sitting in front of their computer, they feel safe that they can not be found, so they toy with people with little thought of the feelings of the person they toy with.
There are some who get so wrapped up in the internet they lose touch with reality. Their life is so tied up in the fantasy they begin to actually believe it has become a reality and when it goes bad, they are devastated. On the interent, you can be anything you want to be, you can make chatting a game or use it as a tool to make real friends, learn how other societies work and or find ways to improve your life.
The internet is what we want it to be, but if possible remember that there are living breathing people out there with feelings. They are the same as the people we see at work, your neighbor or even a family member. Until you physically meet the person your chatting with, you don't know who or what they are, they could be a predator, your brother\sister, your mother\father or a playing on the family computer.
We've all seen and heard the precautions, they should be taken as safe guards, but don't expect it to be 100% safe. A little common sense and a firm grip on reality is still the best way.
Hopefully you will find wonderful, sincere people on the internet, they do exist. It's easier to remember a truth than a lie.
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Lifestyle Protocols
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Posted:Apr 7, 2007 10:46 am
Last Updated:Apr 22, 2007 9:06 am
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I've brought this subject up before and I have to do it again in hopes that it might make some become aware or save them from themselves. I still find it amazing that some find it necessary to have protocols and learn how to be a submissive or a Dominant, but what is even more amazing is that there are people out there who teach it. How scary is that ?
I worry about both of these people and the reality they live. They actually believe there are rules as to how to serve, how to sit, how to talk and how to behave. A comparison was made, a Queen needs to be taught how to be a Queen, but a Queen is taught how to behave for her country, she is taught how to govern the people, just as a King is taught how to rule his Kingdom. Do they need to be trained to love each other ? I wonder what Prince Charles or Princess Diana or Camilla would recommend if they could speak openly about it or perhaps any of King Henry's wives ?
Back to reality, to be a good submissive is in the eyes they submit to, the one who they willing give their love to. Again, there are no real rules or protocols that pertain to reality, rules are made between the two who walk together. One can find rules on how to play safely with others, which is probably a good idea, since it is playing with someone who doesn't know what they are doing.
It's scary to see so many make BDSM a secret lifestyle, or cult. The dictionary describes Cult as a group considered to be extremist or obsessive in their beliefs. I wonder if those who died in Jonestown or in Waco Texas would still think it was a good idea to follow something so blindly ?
There are some people who need rules to follow, mostly because they can't control themselves or have lost touch with who they are. I have seen and know a few people who benefitted by it, but almost always it has been because the one who made the rules was the one who they loved enough to follow those rules. The rules were not from a book, but from what the two made for themselves. I have seen and know far more who tried to follow rules/ protocols that supposively exist in the lifestyle only to end up mentally and or physically scarred.
For fun, before writing this, I did a search on BDSM protocols, just to see if anyone has found that mysterious rule book. I was pleasantly surprized to find how many sites are saying the same as I have always said. There are no rules, the only rules are the ones made between the two.
Sometimes I wish I could reach through my screen and slap the crap out of those who preach rules and protocol. They make make it sound so romantic and how much fun it is, they draw in those who soon find out it is a fantasy, usually after they have found out they were just used and abused.
The reality is, one is dominant in personallity, but can only be dominant to one who allows them to be. To be submissive is also a personallity trait and often taken advantage of by those who think BDSM is all about control and inflicting pain. One who feels the desire to be submissive will find it naturally when they find one that captures there heart with love and understanding and not forced into it.
We train animals to live in our world, when trained with love, they are devoted pets. When trained with force, the will when given the chance they run away or bite you in the ass. Good Kings and Queens are taught to rule with compassion, not forcing the people into depression and poverty. The GOOD ones ! I wonder, who taught God how to be King ?
BDSM is a lifestyle no one needs to be trained to live, it is a lifestyle where we have a higher level of kink and control in our life and live it with those who with the same or similar desires.
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Do you want to know what love is ?
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Posted:Apr 1, 2007 7:21 pm
Last Updated:Apr 18, 2007 6:15 am
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Love is when there is nothing else in the world, it is when your life is nothing and all that is important is the person whoo has your heart and soul.
Is it better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved ? No !
There is nothing, no drug or substitute for a to true love.
Somehow the subject came up in a chat room about love, though I tried, chat was not the place to explain it, so here we are.
No love song, no painting, no words can explain what real love is. Anyone can love a friend, a food or a item. They can say " I love this", but love has become just a word. So what do we call it when your life, our one and only existance is given to another ?
There are movies showing it, songs wriiten about it and we love them, but then another comes along and we relate to it better and decide we love that one better. Was it love or just the story or lyrics ?
We are self centered, expecting love to satisfy ourselves. Love is not for us to have or receive, it is for us to give without the idea what it will do for us. The mind is very powerful, it can tell us what we think, but it is limited to thoughts of what we want and not to what is in our hearts.
Love is something we have no control over, we fight it, we think we know better, but in reality we can't stop it, not when it has found us. I know these are simple words, just as LOVE is a word, it is a word we use loosely on a daily basis. Some say they will never love again, but did they really love in the beginning ? I suspect not. I'm sure many view this as post as just words, they mean nothing to you and perhaps your right, but this is a tale, this is a wish that no one will have to realize what they have lost.
Life is ours to live, it is our only existance on this level, but when you find the one who you truly love, it is no longer your life. It is when you will give up all material things, all that is important to your life and give it to them. For a simple smile, for whatever it takes to make their life pleasurable. Your dreams become theirs, your goal in life is no longer yours, but theirs.
Love is when all your passions, your desires are given to another, it is when their life becomes more important to you than your own life. It is easy to say, but to actually do it takes more than many are willing to do, until they realize it is too late.
Love is just a word to many, handed out like candy, it has lost much of it's meanings and become, just a word. I don't know if I can write the words properly or say them in a way to clarify it, I can only say my experience.
I met one, though it wasn't instant, it became more than I had ever dreamed it would. All that I had held dear to me was shared, any and all faults were not important. Where our paths had been were not important, the only thing important was our time together and how it was shared, it was where my heart, my thoughts wanted to be. Not a minute of the day would pass without her, every thought always had her in mind, every where I looked, all the sights I saw pertained to her.
No, it is not better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved. It has been a few years, I've dated and tried to love, but I've yet to find that again. Is there another chance ? I don't know, they say there are plenty of fish in the ocean. We don't know what we have until we lose it, what are the chances lightning strikes twice or hitting the lottery ?
If you think you love someone, think of what life is without them and you'll have the answers your looking for. It's not about money, or how you'll survive, money is replacable, life goes on, but can you replace love ?
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What were they thinking ?
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Posted:Mar 30, 2007 9:54 am
Last Updated:Apr 2, 2007 2:40 am
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I've read a some blogs talking about apologies
or complaining about the behaviors of some. I'm sure some are legitimate and some are not, but it makes you wonder how it happened and what were they thinking ?
The internet has brought millions of people together, your going to find all kinds of personallities and there are going to be conflicts. It would be a perfect world if we could all get along, but since we are all diffent and have walked different paths, that's not likely.
Everyone comes to chat for different reasons, some for the company of friends, to learn, for entertainment or to escape the reality of their world. I'm sure there are as many different reasons as there are people, which is why almost all chat sites have various different rooms to chat in.
It's alright to disagree, even argue, it's going to happen when different personallities meet. I'm just as guilty as anyone, in my mind I'm right and they are wrong, but I haven't walked in their shoes and they haven't walked in mine, so I try not to take it personal or hold it against them. If we don't see eye to eye, we can argue or just not say anything. We have had a bad day, sometimes it is carried with us where ever we go, the slightest thing could set us off and the bickering starts.
When you take things personal I've learned, you've lost the argument. If you worry that someone is telling stories about you, then you have lost faith in your friends ( your friends will understand, because they know you ). If you come to argue, then you have a sad existence. If you come to learn, you will find a world of knowlegde.
It's easy to hate, but hard to understand why.
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