Pushing the "Wares"
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Posted:Feb 13, 2009 8:20 pm
Last Updated:Mar 24, 2009 10:43 am
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Why are men, or women for that fact, so intent on getting their "wares" seen by the opposite sex? So many take great pride in the pics of their cock and post no pictures other than those on their profiles. Numerous men come into the chatrooms proclaiming "huge cock on cam, please check it out". Get a grip buddy.....every man has one. If you look at the pictures on your home page when first signing in the majority of the pics are cock shots. Unless they are uncircumsized, all the cocks basically look the same. Depending on the angle the photo is shot at, some look a little longer or a little thicker but they do look alike. Don't people understand that there's more to attraction than what's between the legs? If a person has a lousy personality and are physically unattractive to me it is not going to matter one iota how long or how thick they are, you are not going to make your way into my bed. And please don't tell me what you THINK you can do with it.....every guy thinks HE'S the one who will just trip my trigger.....but as I said if you don't have the personality or are unattractive to me you are NOT going to be with me. The last thing I want is a dick that's attached to an even bigger dick. It would behoove the men (this applies to ladies as well) to put a face pic on their profile, chat in the chatroom so a lady can start to see his personality, come to a meet and greet so that she can have one on one interaction in a safe environment and then take the rest from there. They'd get a lot further.
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Attraction
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Posted:Nov 19, 2007 8:16 am
Last Updated:Mar 23, 2009 9:48 am
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I wonder how a man can be attracted to and have chemistry with several women who have different physical features and different personalities. Most of the men I am attracted to normally have some of the same physical features and personalities. But from observation in the chatroom I see a select group of local men who seem to hit on the same group of local women. When we ladies happen to talk about the various men in the chatroom it's evident that we've all met the exact same men. How can this be? We all come in different shapes, sizes, features, personality types and economic backgrounds and these men are interested in everyone of us? How obsurd. The only conclusion I can come to is that they aren't interested in us as a person.....we are looked upon as a wet, hot pussy. Some place to get their load off. I don't care what they tell us it all boils down to that one place. More and more I'm seeing that this website is not for me. I'm finding a good share of the men are very superficial, self-centered and could not form a relationship with a decent person if their life depended on it. It's nice to have "fun" but at who's expense?
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When and Where Did Relationships Change?
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Posted:Nov 13, 2007 5:51 pm
Last Updated:Mar 23, 2009 9:48 am
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I was wondering the other day where and when did relationships change. I'm sorry I just don't understand it any more. You would think with the free "love" mentality we would be a much more relaxed, happier society but we aren't. Look at the number of walking wounded. Evident in the number of married men who contact me for a fling on the side. Or the people who don't want strings....but just the "fun". The number of divorces are rising. What a shame. More emphasis is put on getting just the right engagement ring and having the big expensive fairytale wedding than the quality of self that is being put into the marriage. But quality of self is important to any relationship....what you give of yourself and put into it. But we are so unhappy as a people that we settle for whatever. I've seen couples who fight like cats and dogs, have no respect for each other and you know there is no hope for the relationship.....but they get married anyway. All they are doing is creating more wounded souls.......to be thrown later back out into the world worse off than they were before. People need to choose more wisely in a partner. There's more to a relationship than sex. You have to be friends.....good friends. Your ability to communicate with them later in life could be an important factor. Have you ever noticed a couple sitting eating dinner in a restaurant and what their conversation level is? I find it rather pathetic that a couple can go thru an entire meal and barely say a sentence or 2.
I guess my worries lie with the mounting numbers of wounded souls. It seems that I'm always the one who runs into the souls that are so wounded they don't want take a chance on me. They've been lied to, abused and used by other women to the extent they don't trust....which I think is a sad state of affairs. They could be missing out on the most wonderful person they could have ever met and could make them the happiest in their entire life. I wonder is my destiny to be alone the rest of my life. I made up my mind when I got divorced that it wasn't fair for me to penalize another person for what someone else did to me. How can you expect to have a trusting, loving relationship with someone else if you drag that old baggage along with you? You can't. So my motto is love like you've never been hurt. All I ask of anyone is that they give me a chance. Take the time to know ME.....not just the sexual parts of me.....but ME. You'll find a very loving, giving, tender, caring person.
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Another Year Older
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Posted:Jul 30, 2007 9:23 pm
Last Updated:Aug 7, 2007 6:00 pm
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Next week I will celebrate becoming another year older. The number doesn't bother me. I don't look, act or feel my age. It's just that with each new year you kind of look back at your life and see where you are and what you have accomplished.
The last several years have been very difficult for me. Starting with health problems in late 03.....04 wasn't much kinder...an unwarranted heart cath, the continued life of pain that led to the collapse of the lower lobs of my lungs, the emergency hospitalization in May and subsequent surgery that left me unable to breath on my own. The absenteeism, and lack of love and understanding from an abusive alcoholic husband. The unhappy beginnings of 05 with the breakup of my marriage, loss of home and life as I previously knew it, ending with more health issues. Starting 2006 with the news I have 3 tumors in my liver and ended with the loss of a good paying management job of more than 25 years.
I look back over the year and see I have nothing and am nowhere. I have no , no family or any prospect of ever having one. The nice savings account I had is now gone, the job I have now is entry level thus leaving me to work my way to the top....if I ever make it that far again. Money is tight as I've had to take a drastic cut in pay, there's no prospect of saving as all monies go for paying what bills I can......I no longer can pay all my bills on a timely basis or even monthly......it's become a juggling act from month to month. A struggling act. Don't sleep much. Struggling to keep the only precious thing close to me alive......my dog....but I'm failing at that too. Can't afford the drugs she needs to stay alive. She's my baby...my . I'm letting her down too. Each year I say next year just HAS to be a better year so far that remains to be seen.
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Why Do People On Here Have To Be So Cruel?
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Posted:Jul 30, 2007 8:45 pm
Last Updated:Mar 23, 2009 9:49 am
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Several things connected with Local Sexy Swingers happened to me this weekend that really started me thinking about things. Why do people have to be so cruel to others on here? Unless we've attended numerous parties and become good friends with some of the people on this website no one knows much about the other people's lives. Oh yes they may pick up little tidbits about us as we chat but do they really know US. No one knows what we have gone thru in our lives, what struggles we are facing on a day to day basis. We all have or have had troubles. So why do some think they need to come onto this website, enter the chatrooms and degrade or demoralize people? Hopefully we all know what we want and are looking for.....I do. So why should I be ridiculed, degraded or torn apart because I have opposing views or am looking for something different? I'm just a person struggling to make my way in this very difficult world. And when I say struggle....every day for me is a struggle. No one knows what I am dealing with and for someone to come on to this site and make nasty little remarks to degrade me does not help my struggle. I wish people would remember that. You may have needs you want fulfilled but so do I. I need to be treated with respect and kindness. I try to treat people in the same manner I would wish to be treated. Sometimes I might slide a little and to those I may have offended because I've come off too harsh I apologize. All I ask is that we all remember we only know what we are coping with....we don't know what someone else may be dealing with today or tomorrow......so just treat each other with kindness and don't be so fast to be cruel. I almost threw in the towel because of a few game players and others who like to make cruel and snide remarks. Keep in mind your snide, cruel, demeaning and demoralizing remarks or crude behavior could bring someone's world shattering down around them. Ask yourself how you would want to be treated.....I'm sure not the same way.
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Why Am I here?
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Posted:Jun 11, 2007 6:16 pm
Last Updated:Mar 23, 2009 9:49 am
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I was looking at a profile today that started me thinking.....Why am I here? His comments were a little on the snide side. Talking about ladies saying they are looking for LTRs or the man of their dreams and if that's what they want why are they on this sex website.....it's more or less just for sex. Sorry buddy but you are way off track. Why do people on this website seem to think unless you are looking for the same thing they are you have no right to be here? Well it just depends on which website you use to enter the portal. Passion.com touts private sexy personals for passionate singles who are tired of the same boring dates.....Xmatch is for finding real sexual partners today.....Local Sexy Swingers is the world's largest sex and swingers community. No where does it say if you are looking for a long term relationship do not enter.
I am on this website because I want to find someone who is like minded. Someone who likes sex as much as I. What difference does it make if I'm here or on some other dating website. For those who don't know.....dating websites are used with the thought of finding someone and having sex. The only thing is on the regular dating websites the sexual aspect isn't so overt. I know....I've been on 8 to 10 different dating websites at any given time. Within a short time of starting a dialogue either by email, IM or phone the subject turns to sex. But these aren't necessarily people who have a strong sex drive such as myself. I was in a marriage where the sex was not satisfying. I don't want to be in that situation ever again. Therefore I made the choice of seeking out someone who likes sex as much as I. That's why I'm here on this website. I know it will be a challenge to find someone because there are some many players here. But I think it's possible to find that one special person. It will take time and it will take patience figuring out which are true. But I belong here just as much as anyone else....and I'm sure there's a guy out there thinking the same exact thing.
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Is It Really A Friend With Benefits They're Looking For?
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Posted:Jun 10, 2007 6:15 am
Last Updated:May 3, 2012 5:46 pm
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Hmmmmmmmmmmmm.....Friend with benefits or a "fuck buddy"......which will it be? Do men even know the difference? I think not!
After being out of the dating scene for 26 years things sure have changed. Traditional dating, the let's go out for dinner, maybe a movie or dancing and get to know each other, has gone to the wayside. No one wants, strings or commitments, no serious relationships, no drama......unless it's from them. Everyone has issues and aren't willing to let go of them. Sure they've been hurt by a member of the opposite sex but so has everyone else. Is it fair though to punish all future prospects who come into their lives because one person holds such a tight grasp on your past? NO!!! I say check that old baggage mister and loose the claim check. How do you think you're going to have a GOOD relationship in the future if you don't let go of the old baggage from the past? YOU CAN'T!!!!!!! So now-a-days it's a situation of being a "fuck buddy" or a friend with benefits.
But I've found out most men don't know the difference. I've had guys tell me they are looking for a friend with benefits. Great me too......I'm divorced, have been married twice in my lifetime and have no family so life gets pretty lonely......not looking for marriage again....would rather find a good person somewhere down the road and share an existance....not monopolize or take over their life.....just exist and share what they have to offer. When I say I'm looking for a friend with benefits that's exactly what I mean.....A FRIEND.
Someone who wants to take the time to get to know me, where a true friendship does develop....but also has the right to share my bed. Someone who has no objections to maybe going to dinner, or for a drink, dancing or a movie....someone who is willing to have lunch or help me wash the car...I don't know, just a TRUE friend. Don't they realize all the benefits that can bring being a friend of mine......I will rock their world. I love sex, I'm open for sexploration.....basically anything goes. But I find that most men just want a "fuck buddy". If that's what you want be specific......don't tell me you want a FWB when you have no intentions of being a friend. If you can't be a friend outside of the bedroom then you certainly aren't going to be considered one in the bedroom. You're going to have a harder time getting into my bedroom as a "fuck buddy" than if you are a FWB......either way I'm very selective whom I share myself with.
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First Date Sex? Or Not!
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Posted:Feb 22, 2007 2:35 pm
Last Updated:Mar 23, 2009 9:47 am
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I've noticed recently that there have been several posts concerning whether or not sex on the first date is a good idea and how men view it. Being a single woman back on the dating scene after 25 years of steady relationships I've wondered about this quite a bit myself. I normally am not one to just jump right into bed with a man on the first date because I've always wanted a man to get to know me as a person.....not just a quick romp in the hay. Before I can give myself there has to be a chemistry between us. I admit though there have been a few times when the chemistry has been very strong and I have let myself go......regretting it later because it undoubtedly turned out to be a one night stand.
Today I watched the Tyra Banks Show about promiscuous woman and it really opened my eyes to a few things. Supposedly slutty is supposed to be the "NEW" sexy thing. BUT, she had a panel of young men commenting on what they thought about promiscuous women. Most of them were thankful that there were promiscuous women out there for fulfilling their sexual urges but as far as wanting one for a long term engagement.....NO WAY.
They said if a girl will go to bed with someone the first night they meet then they will do it with anyone and they don't want them. One of the men made a statement about why buy the cow if the milk is free. One said he wouldn't be able to let go of his lady's past....there would always be a trust issue there. One made a comment about not being able to make a housewife out of a ho. One said as soon as he had orgasmed he was ready to hit the door and move on to the next gal. They even said there they had a way of determining if a woman was a . They said there was such a thing as a Trampstamp - a tatoo on the small of the back....no candidate for anything more than a one night stand. The men stated they liked the challenge of a pursuit. They even suggested that waiting for a while was a way to see if the guy was really interested in you as a person OR (forgive my french, LO a piece of ass.
I found this all very interesting and it has caused me to rethink things. Some women may think that being sexually agressive is attractive but if you're looking for more than a one night stand it's not advisable. I'd much rather pleasure myself than to compromise my principles.
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The Married But Looking Phenomenon
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Posted:Feb 19, 2007 2:19 pm
Last Updated:Feb 22, 2007 7:04 am
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I'm sorry but I just don't understand the married but looking phenomenon. It's normally women like me who are approached and I'm tired of it. I get several emails per day from married men who aren't being taken care of at home. That's not my responsiblity.....that's her's. She's got the house, the cars, the bank accounts and the commitment. Let her earn what she's reaping. I was in a lonely, sexless marriage for years and I made the decision to free myself from that situation. I lost a lot and life surely is a struggle but regardless of that I'm happy and at least free. At least I have my self respect. I don't have to lie and sneak around. I can respect a married couple who want to add to their relationship and play together, as I would do the same if the need arose. However, that's not the case with a high percentage of the men on this site. Most of these men are wandering unbeknownst to their mates. I can already tell you that someone will be hurt and I can guarantee you that it won't be the person who's doing the wandering.....it will either be the wife or the person that they involve in their selfish little plot. Why would I as a single woman want to settle for the little bits and pieces that they wish to throw my way. I'm more than just a sex object.....I am a human being with wants and needs. If I get involved with a married man we can't go out in public for fear that friends or family would see us....what kind of a life is that? What are our prospects? If you are that unhappy you have to seek out other lovers I dare you to muster up the guts and get a divorce.
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Lack of manners
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Posted:Feb 14, 2007 11:49 am
Last Updated:Mar 23, 2009 9:47 am
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I don't understand what is happening with people any more. Does being on a sex related website lend reason to abandon all manners? Since I have joined this website I have been stood up more times than I would like to admit. What is up with that? Don't people believe in the golden rule any more......Treat others like you would want to be treated? If I have made a commitment to meet with someone what gives them the right NOT to call, IM or email me and tell me that they aren't going to make it. Normally by the time we have made arrangements to meet you have my email address, YIM or phone number. It would lead me to believe that a good share of the men here are just playing games. Lack of consideration for others speaks highly of your character. What woman wants to involve herself with a man of poor character? Certainly not I. Continuously standing people up will eventually gain you a reputation within the Local Sexy Swingers community. Once that happens why whine about the inability to make connections? You've done it to yourself. Along with that goes the type of approach taken in the chatrooms. Just because it is a sex related website doesn't mean I or any other lady should be treated like a piece of meat. If you choose to approach us we deserve to be treated with respect. A little kindness and consideration will go a long way. And instead of coming into the room shouting "any ladies from (wherever)?" Why not take time to communicate with us, get to know us and you'll learn where we are from. In the future you'd know I'm from the South Bend area. I won't answer if a man comes in the chatroom and is trolling for someone from the South Bend area. Obviously all he's looking for is a quickie and doesn't value me or any other lady as a person. I think more of myself than to compromise my integrity. I'd much rather pleasure myself than get involved with some self absorbed asshole.
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